Violence In Marriage

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Tshifhumulo and Mudhovozi states, “Statistics reveal that there are large numbers of women including those in marital unions or partnerships, who are enduring violence and abuse. Most of this abuse is at the hands of intimate partners and loved ones” (2013). Violence is a form of abuse and is an important and frightening issue that happens in today’s society. Many lives have been taken in result of the abuse and it is affected by the abuse in the marriage. Men, Women, and even teenagers are affected by this issue. Even though abuse is affected by men and women, women sometimes carry the burden of the abuse more than men do. I decided to choose this topic because I was a survivor of domestic violence with abuse and I struggled with ways of …show more content…
The reasons include learned helplessness, fear, fear of economic security, guilt and feeling of failure, dependent children, culture and religious beliefs…Their fears also extend to their children, whose lives have been threatened by their fathers” (Tshifhumulo & Mudhovozi 2013). The commonality of this misfortunate conduct is a multigenerational cycle which needs to be broken. It gives wrong impressions of gender roles, can ultimately affect children’s perceptions of marriage in a negative way, and how they plan to live and appreciate their family …show more content…
These are just the reported cases. In reality, there is an even greater number of children being exposed to violence in the home each year” (2014). As a child it must be hard to experience abuse in everyday life situations. When this occurs in the home, it can be reacted in school, extracurricular activities, and within personal relationships. Domestic Violence can have a negative impact on children and their developmental learning of what a healthy relationship is. As they become older and have intentions of being in a relationship, the negative abuse they have witnessed with their family may be reenacted in their own personal relationships. Society plays a huge role in the effects of domestic violence because television, radio, and personal friendships all show different roles of relationships and abuse. Children may view their father as scary, and abusive because of the perceptions that they see in the household. On the other hand, they can see the mother as the “bad guy” due to the result of separation of their family because of the abuse. If children aren’t aware of the issue it becomes a bigger problem and it brings misunderstanding to family

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