Technology Effects On Relationships

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“During the ceremony, the officiant asked Aaron to think of all the 'laughter ' and 'good times ' he has shared with his cell phone before asking him to promise to 'honor ' and 'comfort her’.”In May of this year, Aaron Chervenak traveled from Los Angeles to Las Vegas to marry his phone. He went through the ceremony in all seriousness, with guests and an officiator. Although the “marriage” is not acknowledge by the state, the actuality of the relationship is, in fact, realistic; Aaron stated that, in a way, “his phone was his longest relationship.” The ceremony may have been symbolistic, but the relationship humanity has created with technology is truly an offset of human interaction and communication today. It is destroying personal interaction …show more content…
60% of respondents said they use their phone more than 4 hours a day, with 18% of respondents admitting to more than 8 hours of usage a day. This data is an example how significant technology has become to people on a daily basis. It is now not only a portal of communication but also is used as a way of seclusion. In the excerpt “The Flight From Conversation,” Sherry Turkle elaborated how people in communities and households have learned to be “alone together”(Turkle 84). In the home, it has become normal for the family to socialize by sitting in the living room on their devices: to sit together, but be distracted by social media, texting, or other applications. In the workplace, colleagues are said to be nonexistent, because they separate themselves using technology. There are no social connections, because instead of interacting with peers, people hide behind computer screens, phone calls, and headphones(Turkle 85). Face-to-face conversations are now abstract, due to the fact that people now tend to prefer sharing their ideas and feelings over the internet. The popular assumption is that technological communication is at an equilibrium with face-to-face human interaction. People separate themselves …show more content…
Technology gives them the opportunity to reach out and be who they want to be, to the point where they become more comfortable with technology than humanity. On the internet a being is able to portray themselves as who they would prefer to be and edit there identity at the click of a button. It is possible to construct, edit, and recreate a life based on who they want to be. This gives the people who believe they are alone comfort because they can portray themselves as an alternative identity and communicate with an abundant amount of people. They have people who immediately respond to theirs ideas and feeling; there is always people to listen and they will never be alone. Their alterior self becomes more import than reality. Because the technological world becomes more significant, human interaction decreases and the comfort of technology becomes more of a necessity. The response from others on social media becomes the principal way of communication. The importance of technology has now advanced into the psychiatric practice, due to the comfort that is achieved from the variety of devices(Turkle 86). People are looking to technology to be a companion because they do not have to respond to the demands of a relationship. People are so disconnected from human interaction that they have given up on the comfort of humanity and human

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