Some women don’t know what to do so they stay in the abusive relationship but you have to start somewhere. The first step to resolving any problem is to first acknowledge that there is one. Often times women mistake abuse as love and therefore accept it as a natural form of affection. This mindset is developed at an early age, either from watching their mothers being abused and staying in the unhealthy relationship or from being abused themselves and told that it was love. Whatever the case may be, it should be understood that any form of verbal, emotional, or physical abuse is not love. Love does not hurt. Abuse can begin in a simple form of manipulation, if someone is manipulating your thoughts and always trying to get you to see things the
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The impact of the words or actions of others upon your life must be recognized, acknowledged and then ministered to. Many abused women believe it’s their fault and blame themselves. This is why compassion, counselling, and resources are needed to help them recover. There is no reason for you to feel guilty for leaving an abusive relationship and it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks or says about the matter, at the end of the day it’s your life hanging in the balance. I often talked to women who have experienced abusive relationships who were encouraged to stay in the relationship by trusted family members, friends, or church leaders. It can get really complicated when seeking guidance from church members. First of all if they are encouraging you to stay in an abusive relationship they are looking at it from a spiritual standpoint and not a realistic standpoint. No one in their right mind should encourage anyone to stay in an abusive relationship and if you don’t know God for yourself, it’s certainly time for you get to know him. I remember watching a TD Jakes video called, “Decisions” after my abusive relationship had ended. He talked about how God gives us common sense to make life decisions and how some people are so spiritual that they end up dead. If we have common sense enough to get out of a burning building, why can’t we have enough common sense to leave an abusive relationship? If you don’t seek permission or approval to save your life from a fire, why would you need it to save your life from
The impact of the words or actions of others upon your life must be recognized, acknowledged and then ministered to. Many abused women believe it’s their fault and blame themselves. This is why compassion, counselling, and resources are needed to help them recover. There is no reason for you to feel guilty for leaving an abusive relationship and it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks or says about the matter, at the end of the day it’s your life hanging in the balance. I often talked to women who have experienced abusive relationships who were encouraged to stay in the relationship by trusted family members, friends, or church leaders. It can get really complicated when seeking guidance from church members. First of all if they are encouraging you to stay in an abusive relationship they are looking at it from a spiritual standpoint and not a realistic standpoint. No one in their right mind should encourage anyone to stay in an abusive relationship and if you don’t know God for yourself, it’s certainly time for you get to know him. I remember watching a TD Jakes video called, “Decisions” after my abusive relationship had ended. He talked about how God gives us common sense to make life decisions and how some people are so spiritual that they end up dead. If we have common sense enough to get out of a burning building, why can’t we have enough common sense to leave an abusive relationship? If you don’t seek permission or approval to save your life from a fire, why would you need it to save your life from