The DNA of relationships challenged me in many ways. I thought I was going to hate the book. It surprised me. This book challenged my relationship with God and my relationship with people. It made me realize my faults and appreciate God’s grace even more. In this paper I will discuss three concepts I learned in the book. I will then evaluate m wants and fears. Finally I will discuss ways to improve relationships in my life.
One thing that I learned was stated on page 18. The point is: external problem is rarely the real problem (Smalley, 18). The problem is that we as people are scared to admit our real problems that are bothering us. It is difficult to admit the real problem because it makes us vulnerable. The example that Smalley used …show more content…
The point is: listen to your emotions (Smalley, 94). Smalley brakes this section up into tree points. The first point is: Listen to your emotions (Smalley, 94). We need to ask the question, what we are feeling. We need to ask this when we are confused about our emotions (Smalley, 94). We have to remember not to judge our emotions; we need to see our emotions as information (Smalley, 94). I feel emotions I do not understand sometimes. I need to ask myself why I am feeling them. That brings me to Smalley’s second point, we need to identify our emotions (Smalley, 94). To steal a lesson we talked about in class: if we can name our emotions we can tame our emotions. We need to Identify and admit our feelings so we can correctly assess if the emotions are ligament to act upon. Smalley used the analogy of a husband being out late and not calling his wife. His wife was worried sick even though she had no reason to be (Smalley, 95). This leads me to Smalley’s third point; we need to evaluate the truth of our emotions (Smalley, 95). We need to ask God if what we are feeling is true (Smalley, 95). Then we need to use the information we gain about our emotions to evaluate the truth behind why we are feeling. This applies to my faith because it shows me that God loves me so much he gave us all complex emotions. It also shows me that God know what we are feeling. If he know what we are feeling and he wants to help us. This means that He loves us. This gives me even more proof that God wants to have a loving relationship with
One thing that I learned was stated on page 18. The point is: external problem is rarely the real problem (Smalley, 18). The problem is that we as people are scared to admit our real problems that are bothering us. It is difficult to admit the real problem because it makes us vulnerable. The example that Smalley used …show more content…
The point is: listen to your emotions (Smalley, 94). Smalley brakes this section up into tree points. The first point is: Listen to your emotions (Smalley, 94). We need to ask the question, what we are feeling. We need to ask this when we are confused about our emotions (Smalley, 94). We have to remember not to judge our emotions; we need to see our emotions as information (Smalley, 94). I feel emotions I do not understand sometimes. I need to ask myself why I am feeling them. That brings me to Smalley’s second point, we need to identify our emotions (Smalley, 94). To steal a lesson we talked about in class: if we can name our emotions we can tame our emotions. We need to Identify and admit our feelings so we can correctly assess if the emotions are ligament to act upon. Smalley used the analogy of a husband being out late and not calling his wife. His wife was worried sick even though she had no reason to be (Smalley, 95). This leads me to Smalley’s third point; we need to evaluate the truth of our emotions (Smalley, 95). We need to ask God if what we are feeling is true (Smalley, 95). Then we need to use the information we gain about our emotions to evaluate the truth behind why we are feeling. This applies to my faith because it shows me that God loves me so much he gave us all complex emotions. It also shows me that God know what we are feeling. If he know what we are feeling and he wants to help us. This means that He loves us. This gives me even more proof that God wants to have a loving relationship with