find a mate, the conditioned mind brings you back to this same idea—“I will al- ways be single.” Your mind might work against you in your quest for romance be- cause of this deep belief that identifies you as “always single.” The more you doubt that you can find love, the more doubts you create in your mind. This cycle of negative thinking is almost unstoppable if you do not change your deep-rooted be- liefs. Feeling confident in your relationships with men may have been difficult in the past, like paddling a canoe upstream while the river surges in the opposite direc- tion. Cascading thoughts such as doubts, fears, and insecurities from previous heartaches will keep you down and prevent you from having a positive outlook
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The new flow of thoughts (mind-chatter) will support you as if you were floating effortlessly downstream on a river. The struggle will be over as your thoughts become naturally aligned with love. Then the universal life force will interact with your new, supportive thoughts and will help you initiate and maintain healthier relationships with the opposite sex. How the Subconscious Rules Your Day There is a clear difference between your conscious mind and your subconscious mind. Your conscious mind sees only the surface of events (the outer reality). Your conscious mind is logical and acts through your rational will and desires, such as wanting a life partner, more money, or better health. But no matter how strong your will appears to be, these stated desires have little power over your deep, subcon- scious mind. See Figure 3 on the following page for a model of the mind. Your subconscious mind rarely changes, and any new information you receive typically just sits on the surface of your mind without penetrating deeper. That’s why you easily forget all of the good advice you read in self-help books and instead slip back into your old dating patterns. The subconscious mind controls your …show more content…
Your heart beats automatically, and you breathe without effort. When you learned to ride a bike, the deepest areas of your mind stored that skill for you to use in the future. The pri- mary goal of your subconscious is to keep you alive and happy. If you try to hold your breath, your subconscious will automatically make you uncomfortable so that you exhale and take in more air. In addition to all of the physical actions your body performs, the subconscious controls most of your mental activity. Your core beliefs are a part of the pattern that the deep mind likes to sustain. Do you always feel as if you’re not good enough or that you are a victim in life? Are you insecure around authority figures or submis- sive with the opposite sex? That is because you hold these thoughts in your sub- conscious— am unlovable, I am unwanted, I am not good enough, I am bad, I am wrong, I am a mistake, I am ugly, I am poor, I am stupid, and so on. No matter how illogical these beliefs may be, you are basically locked into accepting them and living by them until you change them at a deeper level. The Subconscious: The Giant Sponge of Your
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The new flow of thoughts (mind-chatter) will support you as if you were floating effortlessly downstream on a river. The struggle will be over as your thoughts become naturally aligned with love. Then the universal life force will interact with your new, supportive thoughts and will help you initiate and maintain healthier relationships with the opposite sex. How the Subconscious Rules Your Day There is a clear difference between your conscious mind and your subconscious mind. Your conscious mind sees only the surface of events (the outer reality). Your conscious mind is logical and acts through your rational will and desires, such as wanting a life partner, more money, or better health. But no matter how strong your will appears to be, these stated desires have little power over your deep, subcon- scious mind. See Figure 3 on the following page for a model of the mind. Your subconscious mind rarely changes, and any new information you receive typically just sits on the surface of your mind without penetrating deeper. That’s why you easily forget all of the good advice you read in self-help books and instead slip back into your old dating patterns. The subconscious mind controls your …show more content…
Your heart beats automatically, and you breathe without effort. When you learned to ride a bike, the deepest areas of your mind stored that skill for you to use in the future. The pri- mary goal of your subconscious is to keep you alive and happy. If you try to hold your breath, your subconscious will automatically make you uncomfortable so that you exhale and take in more air. In addition to all of the physical actions your body performs, the subconscious controls most of your mental activity. Your core beliefs are a part of the pattern that the deep mind likes to sustain. Do you always feel as if you’re not good enough or that you are a victim in life? Are you insecure around authority figures or submis- sive with the opposite sex? That is because you hold these thoughts in your sub- conscious— am unlovable, I am unwanted, I am not good enough, I am bad, I am wrong, I am a mistake, I am ugly, I am poor, I am stupid, and so on. No matter how illogical these beliefs may be, you are basically locked into accepting them and living by them until you change them at a deeper level. The Subconscious: The Giant Sponge of Your