Forgiveness: How to Forgive and Forget
Forgiveness is the ability to heal a wounded heart. To forgive and forget an offence involves an emotional process, and it is not an instant event.
Doctor Saima Noreen and his team at the University of Saint Andrews carried out a related research and their outcome suggests that forgiveness facilitates forgetting. The research found that individuals are more effective at suppressing items of information associated with memories for offences they have already forgiven.
Fred Luskin, a psychologist reported that in careful scientific studies, forgiveness training has been shown to reduce depression, increase hopefulness, decrease anger, improve spiritual connection and increase emotional self-confidence. …show more content…
There are various offences such as cheat in the marriage/office, fraud, lies and so on. These offences might not have the same hurtful magnitude, but God wants you to forgive every offender.
Everyone had once offended the Lord, but He forgives us and forgot our past sins. The forgiveness of the Lord made us Christians today. So, the Lord made forgiveness a mandatory trend for every one of us.
Matthew chapter 6 verses 14 & 15 says: “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”
3 Rules of Forgiveness for Reconciliation
Forgiveness is not an action you perform in haste or under pressure. You must find out the details of the offence, and the intention of the offender.
Jesus gave the rule of forgiveness in the book of Luke chapter 17 verse 3 & 4 says: “Take heed to yourselves. If your brother sins against you, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. And if he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times in a day returns to you, saying, ‘I repent,’ you shall forgive him.”
1. Criticize your …show more content…
Confirm Offender’s Repentance
The offender that deserves forgiveness and reconciliation must feel bad for committing such offence. For instance, a rude son offended his dad by joining bad boys to steal on the street. The action of this boy brought a public shame to his father. Having rebuked the boy, the confirmation of his repentance was renouncing his bad gangs, and joining the group of God-fearing boys.
3. Forgive your Offender
Forgiveness might not be very easy in some heart-breaking offences, but it is safer for you to forgive the (repented) offender.
Matthew chapter 18 verses 15 says: “Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother.”
Forgiveness that deserves reconciliation is a two-way process which involves; repentance on the side of the offender and to forgive on the side of the offended person.
There are some occasions where the offender will not be remorseful for the offence committed. It would be impossible to reconcile with such offender. Don’t allow the bitterness to stay in your heart forever. The best options are forgiveness and prayers for the stubborn offender (who might be your enemy).
How to Handle Forgiveness without
Forgiveness is the ability to heal a wounded heart. To forgive and forget an offence involves an emotional process, and it is not an instant event.
Doctor Saima Noreen and his team at the University of Saint Andrews carried out a related research and their outcome suggests that forgiveness facilitates forgetting. The research found that individuals are more effective at suppressing items of information associated with memories for offences they have already forgiven.
Fred Luskin, a psychologist reported that in careful scientific studies, forgiveness training has been shown to reduce depression, increase hopefulness, decrease anger, improve spiritual connection and increase emotional self-confidence. …show more content…
There are various offences such as cheat in the marriage/office, fraud, lies and so on. These offences might not have the same hurtful magnitude, but God wants you to forgive every offender.
Everyone had once offended the Lord, but He forgives us and forgot our past sins. The forgiveness of the Lord made us Christians today. So, the Lord made forgiveness a mandatory trend for every one of us.
Matthew chapter 6 verses 14 & 15 says: “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”
3 Rules of Forgiveness for Reconciliation
Forgiveness is not an action you perform in haste or under pressure. You must find out the details of the offence, and the intention of the offender.
Jesus gave the rule of forgiveness in the book of Luke chapter 17 verse 3 & 4 says: “Take heed to yourselves. If your brother sins against you, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. And if he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times in a day returns to you, saying, ‘I repent,’ you shall forgive him.”
1. Criticize your …show more content…
Confirm Offender’s Repentance
The offender that deserves forgiveness and reconciliation must feel bad for committing such offence. For instance, a rude son offended his dad by joining bad boys to steal on the street. The action of this boy brought a public shame to his father. Having rebuked the boy, the confirmation of his repentance was renouncing his bad gangs, and joining the group of God-fearing boys.
3. Forgive your Offender
Forgiveness might not be very easy in some heart-breaking offences, but it is safer for you to forgive the (repented) offender.
Matthew chapter 18 verses 15 says: “Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother.”
Forgiveness that deserves reconciliation is a two-way process which involves; repentance on the side of the offender and to forgive on the side of the offended person.
There are some occasions where the offender will not be remorseful for the offence committed. It would be impossible to reconcile with such offender. Don’t allow the bitterness to stay in your heart forever. The best options are forgiveness and prayers for the stubborn offender (who might be your enemy).
How to Handle Forgiveness without