Reflection On Alanon Meeting

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I went to the Alanon meeting with my cousin Grace, since our uncle is an alocholic, we thought it would be beneficial to attend this meeting together. When we were on our way to the meeting we were both nervous because we have never really discussed our uncles disease with anyone else besides our siblings. We kind of keep quiet about it around our families because it 's something that isn 't really discussed. In class when we were talking about how families cope with alcoholics in the family, there is definitely some unspoken rules in my family. Especially the don 't talk rule. There is always a sense of awkwardness when my uncles around because we all know how he binge drinks and is known for causing bar fights around town, but no one …show more content…
There was only about 15 people there, which was a lot smaller than the AA meeting I attended. A women, Mary, came up to us and discussed how since it was our first meeting we would have to discuss our problems with her prior to joining the meeting with everyone else. We went to the table with her and told her about our uncle and how he has lost control of his drinking and how his wife keeps kicking him out, but he always somehow returns. It felt good to express how we felt to someone who understands because it wasn 't so hush hush like it is with our parents. My uncle has gotten so bad that my cousin Brittany, his daughter, who just graduated high school, doesn 't even want him at her graduation because of how bad his addiction has got. Its been really hard seeing how much pain he has caused to my cousins. My cousin is specifically going away to college just so she can get away from him. My other cousin deals with his dad 's addiction another way, by drinking which is not the best thing to do at all. We talked about in class how the family scapegoat drinks at a early age and has more problems with law, which i feel like my cousin is unfortunately heading in that direction. We told Mary all of this, and thenwe joined the

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