Growing up on a rural, vegetable farm as a young adolescent in the mid-1960’s had its advantages and disadvantages. Some of the advantages, especially during the summer growing season, included plenty of free time to play, easily accessible snacks, and supportive, nurturing parents. My ten siblings and I learned at a very young age not to get in mom’s way first thing in the morning because if we did, we spent the next few hours before lunch doing household chores, such as washing dishes or scrubbing floors. So to avoid these experiences, my siblings and I got up early each day at the crack of dawn and spent the day exploring, playing, and learning about life on the farm, and in the surrounding neighborhood. As we gallivanted across the countryside,
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The approach they followed, like many other parents back in the sixties, was considered to be democratic and child-centered. As parental role models they exhibited the same behaviors they expected from us kids, such as the importance of respecting your elders, doing as you’re told, and treating others as you wished to be treated. In turn, we internalized these behaviors which caused us to conduct ourselves in a similar manner as they did. The majority of the time my parents exhibited emotional understanding and control when dealing with the many conflicts that cropped up between my siblings and I. And based on their modeling, they expected us to do the same. I realize now that this approach taught us how to manage our own emotions and helped us better understand the emotions of others as well as I grew older. Ordinarily my parents set reasonable demands. And at times, I considered my parents to be fair and flexible, especially when extenuating circumstances led to rules being broken. But for the most part, when it came to rule violations, they were strict disciplinarians. Either you toed the line, or you faced the consequences of your choices. The consequences usually resulted in some form of corporal punishment, such as a spanking, a belt, or a switch across the bottom. Although I benefited as a child from my parent’s parenting practice, I can still remember the life changing moments when they used corporal …show more content…
I believe the two ideas complement one another and provide the best support for each child’s growth and development at whatever stage they are at. Treating challenging misbehavior as mistaken behavior is an exciting new concept that makes a lot of sense because misbehavior implies the child’s actions are intentional. And for the most part, young children haven’t yet learned what is or what is not appropriate behavior. With the guidance approach the teacher demonstrates appropriate behavior in a safe, nurturing, and inclusive environment conducive to learning. An environment where carefully designed and guided activities are linked to developmentally appropriate practices which respond to the needs of each child. An environment which encourages children to learn from their mistakes, better prepares them for the next stage of
The approach they followed, like many other parents back in the sixties, was considered to be democratic and child-centered. As parental role models they exhibited the same behaviors they expected from us kids, such as the importance of respecting your elders, doing as you’re told, and treating others as you wished to be treated. In turn, we internalized these behaviors which caused us to conduct ourselves in a similar manner as they did. The majority of the time my parents exhibited emotional understanding and control when dealing with the many conflicts that cropped up between my siblings and I. And based on their modeling, they expected us to do the same. I realize now that this approach taught us how to manage our own emotions and helped us better understand the emotions of others as well as I grew older. Ordinarily my parents set reasonable demands. And at times, I considered my parents to be fair and flexible, especially when extenuating circumstances led to rules being broken. But for the most part, when it came to rule violations, they were strict disciplinarians. Either you toed the line, or you faced the consequences of your choices. The consequences usually resulted in some form of corporal punishment, such as a spanking, a belt, or a switch across the bottom. Although I benefited as a child from my parent’s parenting practice, I can still remember the life changing moments when they used corporal …show more content…
I believe the two ideas complement one another and provide the best support for each child’s growth and development at whatever stage they are at. Treating challenging misbehavior as mistaken behavior is an exciting new concept that makes a lot of sense because misbehavior implies the child’s actions are intentional. And for the most part, young children haven’t yet learned what is or what is not appropriate behavior. With the guidance approach the teacher demonstrates appropriate behavior in a safe, nurturing, and inclusive environment conducive to learning. An environment where carefully designed and guided activities are linked to developmentally appropriate practices which respond to the needs of each child. An environment which encourages children to learn from their mistakes, better prepares them for the next stage of