The Adoption Process

The adoption process influences everyone in the family in a positive way, this whole experience is done to provide a child without a family the opportunity to be part of one. However it takes a toll on other family members especially when other children are involved. The necessity for attention is different for both their birth children and adopted children. Families formed by adoption and birth deal with issues all their own. Adoption is defined as a permanent, legally binding arrangement through which a person, usually a child or teenager, becomes a member of a new family. In this arrangement, persons other than the birthparents assume all parental rights and obligations. The birthparents no longer have these rights and obligations and are …show more content…
But they’re many unexpected problems that occur that many parents experience when bringing a new child into their family. The child who was adopted is set apart, not only from their parents, but also from their siblings. For the newly adopted child this is a whole new experience for them. Now that the new child is in new environment, they have to learn to become comfortable with their new parents. The adopted child will often feel a sense of exclusivity. It is the parent’s responsibility to ease the child’s pain. This just means that there are differences among the children in the household (Mintzer, 2014). A lot of the time the bond with the adopted child isn’t formed right away like many parents anticipated. Many families who go into this experience already have children, so they think the transition will be easy with their newly adopted child. Considering a lot of these children want to be part of a family, the love would be automatic, that love would be automatic, that the parents would respond to the child who’s needy and wants them. However it doesn’t happen like that it’s something that needs to grow, the child needs to develop trust considering these people are going to be there legal guardians (Nussbaum, 2007). The parents can prepare the biological children for what’s going on and how the house is going to change for the better. Yet, no one in the family can be …show more content…
A child’s behavior reflects on how the parents act during and after the adoption process. When a parent brings home their newly adopted sibling, the biological child will hope things won’t be changed dramatically. According to Blended Families: Recipe for Sibling Rivalry? it says “Parents really set the tone [for the kids].” Which it really does if a parent shows favoritism towards the newly adopted child than the other child will feel unloved and show jealousy. The relationship between the children will be affected by how the parents treat them, they deserve to be treated fairly. It’s important for adopted and biological kids to have the same last name, rights and privileges as one another so parents do not appear biased toward one child over another (Friedman, 2008). Children need to know that they’re different individuals and parents need to treat them like individuals, considering the adopted child comes from a different gene pool. This means that they will have different interest and abilities than that of their siblings and the parents need to learn to respect that and treat them as individuals (Mintzer, 2014). When you bring an adopted child into the home of a biological child there’s going to be competition for attention from parents. Many will us the excuse that I’m older or I’m taller, but with adopted families the excuse of your not from