What Are The Pros And Cons Of Being A Pregnant Teenager Essay

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My story is like many others, I’m sure. I remember it like yesterday. As my heart raced and stomach churned in knots, I began to cry. I wondered to myself, “What am I going to do and what is going to happen to me and my boyfriend”? Are we even going to stay together? Is he going to leave me like other guys leave young girls in this position? I never thought that this could be a scenario I would find myself in. It 's no big deal, people do it every day and nothing happens to them. “Why was I any different”? I thought to myself.
It was a Friday when I found out that I was going to be a teenage mother at 17 years old. My older boyfriend was off of work and was on his way to pick me up from the bus stop. I was skipping school and would
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While teenage parents find their experiences challenging and tough, there are no regrets with whom they become and the bond they create with their child. Everyone wishes that things could be easier so you could have enjoyed your firstborn without the added stress. Becoming pregnant as a teenager can mean a withdrawal of a support system when it’s most needed. Being a pregnant teenager can bring a lack of support from a variety of people-- the general public, school and even your very own family and friends. It brings you ultimatums that you never knew you would have to do, whether it be having an abortion or moving …show more content…
I knew at that very moment what I had to do-- I had to confront my worst fear and tell my mother. While I didn’t have a close relationship with her, I still didn’t want to seem like a disappointment. After I told her, she yet again gave me an “ultimatum.” She told me I didn’t have to get married but I did have to move out to start my own family. My 21-year-old boyfriend was extremely scared but very supportive from the moment he found out. He and I both knew that we were no longer living for ourselves, but for something so much more. I wasn’t working at the time but I knew I wouldn’t get far if I didn’t finish high school. I decided to go back to school and get my GED while I was pregnant, I felt I needed to prove to myself that I wasn’t like everyone else that gets pregnant and just drops out of school. I didn’t want to have to rely on anyone else in order to support my new family and myself.
All in all everything has worked out. I believe everything happens for a reason, if it’s meant to be it will happen. My son’s father and I split up when Elijah was 2 years old. His father has always been actively involved in Elijah’s life. We knew that even though things didn’t work out for us in our relationship, it wasn’t our son’s fault. We were both here to support and take care of Elijah, no matter

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