According to my personal experiences and past conversations I’ve come across many moments that make me agree with Tannen and her ideas. One, for example, was when person A told person B “ I am going on a hike” , Person B says “ wow ok thanks for inviting me “. This causes an argument between both people because person A simply said he was going on a hike person B assumes she was not invited because person A used the phrase “I”. Person B thinks that there is a metamessage in the conversation when she simply could’ve just asked to come along. This can create an argument because the two speakers aren't operating on the same level of talk as Tannen points out, one speaker was making more of a statement but also making the invitation for the other
