Dad – I will always love you. From a young age, you and I have never been able to get along. In Kansas, you were not around while I was growing up and once we moved to California, you were around even less. The years I might have needed you the most, I did not have access to you.
Just when you started to be more present in my life, you had open heart surgery. In the following years you were gone working on your health. I can never blame you for this; however, it resulted in less time we had together. In high school with the diagnosis of mom’s cancer, you were around less and I started to navigate and control my life even more without much guidance from the both of you at that time. When all had settled down and you were able …show more content…
The idea is that there is a System One, which is our intuition, it recalls information quickly. The other, System Two, requires effort to engage. It articulates and develops our judgments and choices. Our intuition; however, is biased. In life we automatically assume certain things, without thinking them through because of past experiences. Kahnemans’ idea is that these are assumptive heuristics. A heuristic simply being a general rule or method of which we use to simplify our daily life. The heuristics are built on what we experience, and determine how we respond to any given situation. Our System One acts on heuristics, it uses past information to develop a general rule of thumb which we use to quickly and effortlessly get through a given task. System Two is a more in depth thought process of System One. It takes the time to critically think through the heuristic we are using and creates a more thought out and processed solution to a more difficult situation. Using the assumptive heuristic examples, Kahneman lies out in his book; I am ultimately going to try and shed light on why we have never been able to get along. Our biases and intuitions have been affected through our past experiences with each other, and with the seldom use of our System Two critically thinking on the reasons behind our problems. Our relationship has been damaged by years of neglect. Hopefully, through this …show more content…
I was primed as a child to the idea that you were not involved in most of my life. And if you were around, it was most likely due to the fact that I was being punished. Most notably, the time I was punished for stealing your jar of change. That moment has stuck with me. My System One developed itself based off these moments in my childhood. I linked you to the idea of being an enforcer, the first emotions that would come to me whenever I saw you would be hatred and fear. You were primed to see me as a trouble-maker and would assume that whenever something went wrong it was my fault. With the little time spent together and already having been primed to the idea of each other, our feelings never changed. Never spending the energy to critically think about the problem, it was never fixed. I had an idea of who you were in my head and it stayed for