Essay about Suyuan and Jing-Mei’s Relationship in the Joy Luck Club

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Suyuan and Jing-Mei’s relationship in The Joy Luck Club In The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan, Jing-Mei and her mother have a very rocky relationship. Tan develops a relationship between Suyuan and Jing-Mei that is distant in the beginning due to culture differences and miscommunication, but gradually strengthens with time and understanding. Both of them have different backgrounds and have been influenced by two different cultures. Suyuan grew up in China and behaves according to the Chinese culture and her American-born daughter Jing-Mei is influenced by the American culture that surrounds her and wants to become part of it. Their relationship is also shaped by the pressure Suyuan puts on Jing-Mei. She wants her to be a perfect …show more content…
Suyuan’s high expectations for her daughter cause miscommunication and misunderstanding in their relationship. However, this relationship gradually changes as Suyuan passes away and Jing-Mei gets older and becomes an adult. Through reflecting on her mother and visiting China she starts to understand her mother’s ways and actions and respects them. She also realizes that her mother always did love her and believed in her. Although Jing-Mei never believed that her mother approved of her throughout the book it is present. An important moment is after the New Year’s dinner when Suyuan gives Jing-Mei her green jade pendant, calling it Jing-mei’s "life importance." Suyuan tells her daughter that the Jade isn’t good quality, but it will improve with time. Jing-Mei is like this young jade, improving and deepening over time. Also, Suyuan tries to comfort her daughter when she is insulted by Waverly Jong and admires her for not choosing the “best quality” crab like everyone else but leaving the best ones for them and the worse one for herself. Therefore, because of cultural differences Suyuan and Jing-Mei have many opposing ideas and beliefs. This coupled with their lack of communication are responsible for many of the problems they face during the course of their relationship. These conflicts are only resolved when Jing-Mei reflects and learns about her mother's past and accepts their respective

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