Summary Of Sex Lies And Conversation

The articles “Sex, Lies and Conversations: Why is it So Hard for Men and Women to talk to Each Other “by Deborah Tannen and “Speaking Different Languages” by John Gray are about how men and women were born differently physically, emotionally and mentally. This causes many problems in a relationship. Some problems can’t be resolved by themselves, they would have to seek help from a marriage counselor. Marriage counselors understand both men and women because she/he might have been in the same situation; and decided to help couples who misunderstand one another. According to Tannen and Gray, men and women can adjust their thinking to minimize misunderstanding by having good communication, by respecting one another, and by realizing the differences …show more content…
For example, men and women use language differently. Gray notes that misinterpreting each other is easy when men and women have the same words, but with different meanings (334). For example, women say things like this; “We never go out”. Men respond like this;” That’s not true. We went out last week”. Another common complaints are “The house is always a mess” women say. Men respond like this “It’s not always a mess” (335). You can see how a ‘’literal” translation of a woman’s words could easily mislead a man who is used to using speech as a means of conveying only facts and information. The fact is men and women are completely different in the way of talk, dress, and feelings. We will never be the same as men. That is why is important to realize the differences between each other.
Deborah Tannen and John Gray understood that men and women misunderstand one another. In their articles, they write about the differences between men and women, and how to minimize arguments. Good communication, respecting one another, and realizing their differences are ways to minimize conflicts. Also, it’s the key to a long term