Throughout the chapters studied from the book, Just Listen by Mark Goulston (2010), Goulston outlines his life as a psychiatrist and analyzes ways in which he uses in order to get through to people. As Goulston follows the interactionism perspective in the course of his book, he provides readers with several communication skills that can be used with people in our everyday life. During the book, Goulston demonstrates his values and beliefs, his viewpoints on people as well as the people he works with, and why his ideas work efficiently. In the course of the chapters studied, Goulston targets different kinds of people that exist in our everyday life. These people may include: needy people, bullies, takers, narcissists or even psychopaths. As
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As Goulston shares stories about some of the people he works with and the issues they are dealing with, he provides his clients with a solid solution. A strong example of this can be seen through Derrick, and his needy girlfriend, Jada, (Goulston, pg. 97). Goulston notices the issue and provides Derrick with a clear solution. He tells Derrick exactly what to say to Jada even though he knows it will be painful for him to say it. As Goulston observes, “ A situation like this can go one of two ways. If the person is smart enough to take your message seriously, you’ll see a change for the better. On the other hand, the person may refuse to change or even escalate the needy behavior, in which case you may decide that the relationship isn’t worth saving after all,” (Goulston, pg. 98). This is a clear example of one of Goulston’s many viewpoints regarding many of the people he works with. In respect to the interactionism perspective, Goulston notes, “If you’re coping with a needy person, one warning is in order: Extreme and highly pathological neediness can sometimes be a sign of borderline personality disorder,” (Goulston, pg. 98). This example shows the perspective in which Goulston follows, the interactionism perspective. The interactionism perspective focuses on the way that we act or make conscious choices regarding our …show more content…
I think that Goulston’s ideas work well because readers are able to relate to a specific circumstance and then use Goulston’s ideas to come up with a solution to their own problem. Goulston’s ideas work well because they are coming from real-life situations that anyone can be going through. In contribution to the interactionism perspective, Goulston’s ideas work well on a more sociological level. They work because Goulston applies his knowledge and behavior of people to analyze another person’s behavior. Throughout the chapters of the book, Just Listen by Mark Goulston, there were many points that I agreed with and related to, as well as a couple of other points in which I didn’t agree with and could not completely relate to. I completely agree with Goulston’s statement, “Normally it takes work to get inside another person’s head,” (Goulston, pg. 87). Even though I may not be a psychiatrist, I strive to try and find ways to get into a persons head to figure out why they acted the way that they did. For example, I am still trying to get inside the head of the seventeen-year-old male that shot and killed four people as well as injured students and teachers of his own school in La Loche, Saskatchewan. It is very hard for someone to try and comprehend the reasoning behind this
As Goulston shares stories about some of the people he works with and the issues they are dealing with, he provides his clients with a solid solution. A strong example of this can be seen through Derrick, and his needy girlfriend, Jada, (Goulston, pg. 97). Goulston notices the issue and provides Derrick with a clear solution. He tells Derrick exactly what to say to Jada even though he knows it will be painful for him to say it. As Goulston observes, “ A situation like this can go one of two ways. If the person is smart enough to take your message seriously, you’ll see a change for the better. On the other hand, the person may refuse to change or even escalate the needy behavior, in which case you may decide that the relationship isn’t worth saving after all,” (Goulston, pg. 98). This is a clear example of one of Goulston’s many viewpoints regarding many of the people he works with. In respect to the interactionism perspective, Goulston notes, “If you’re coping with a needy person, one warning is in order: Extreme and highly pathological neediness can sometimes be a sign of borderline personality disorder,” (Goulston, pg. 98). This example shows the perspective in which Goulston follows, the interactionism perspective. The interactionism perspective focuses on the way that we act or make conscious choices regarding our …show more content…
I think that Goulston’s ideas work well because readers are able to relate to a specific circumstance and then use Goulston’s ideas to come up with a solution to their own problem. Goulston’s ideas work well because they are coming from real-life situations that anyone can be going through. In contribution to the interactionism perspective, Goulston’s ideas work well on a more sociological level. They work because Goulston applies his knowledge and behavior of people to analyze another person’s behavior. Throughout the chapters of the book, Just Listen by Mark Goulston, there were many points that I agreed with and related to, as well as a couple of other points in which I didn’t agree with and could not completely relate to. I completely agree with Goulston’s statement, “Normally it takes work to get inside another person’s head,” (Goulston, pg. 87). Even though I may not be a psychiatrist, I strive to try and find ways to get into a persons head to figure out why they acted the way that they did. For example, I am still trying to get inside the head of the seventeen-year-old male that shot and killed four people as well as injured students and teachers of his own school in La Loche, Saskatchewan. It is very hard for someone to try and comprehend the reasoning behind this