Summary Of Chapter Nine Perception And Listening

During my final years of high school, I met a person who seemed to really like hearing himself talk about himself. Whenever I join my friends with their group discussion, this person, who I’ll refer to as Mick, always tried to swing the conversation about his interests and rattle off his thoughts. I heard once that Mick insulted someone I knew by calling her “inferior” by comparison after he listen about her day in math class. At one point my friends tried to sit him down and explain what he was doing, but instead he tried to appeal to pity and change to direction of their intervention. Instead of listening, Mick kept on trying to monopolize the discussion.
Concept named and defined:
Monopolizing is when a person “take the focus off the speaker and redirect the conversation and attention to themselves” (Chapter Nine Perception and Listening). In my own words, this person will try to cut off the speaker or feel like they have to one up the speaker’s story with one of their own. Dual-perspective taking is an “attempt to see things from the other person’s point of view” (Chapter Nine Perception and Listening). In simpler terms, it is when the listener is trying view things in other people’s perspective. …show more content…
As a listener, he was more fixated on having the attention of the conversation be about his interests and his stories. If the discussion is not about a subject he can express his opinion on, Mick is either pseudo or selective listening. He will ignore what everyone is talking about while searching for a word he can use to interrupt and push the conversation into a more preferred