Summary Of A Stay At Home Mom By Bonnie Fellhoelter

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In Bonnie Fellhoelter essay she argues that a stay at home mom is a better person to teach their child what’s right from wrong “since [mothers] naturally want what is best for her child” (paragraph 2). Although I do agree with Bonnie Fellhoelter statement “society truly does begin at home” but I do not agree with that a mother should have to stay at home just to teach their child morals (paragraph 2).
By using logos, she states, “according to a non-partisan Public Agenda survey in 2000, roughly 80 percent of parents with children 5 and under say a stay-at-home parent is best able to give the children the affection and attention they need” (paragraph 3). In addition, she also uses the sweeping generalization stating that “a study done by the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD), reports that, kids in non-maternal care tend to be associated with qualities such as “gets in lots of fights,” “cruelty,” “explosive behavior,” “talking
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Also she states that “being a stay-at-home mom may have periods of loneliness, boredom, frustration, and feelings of futility, the rewards of being personally involved with raising one’s own children greatly outweigh the negatives” (paragraph 10). Furthermore, the writer expresses that “as tough as this unpaid task may be, this self sacrifice of staying at home to raise ones’ children can be the most society enhancing job a woman can do”(paragraph 10). These statements make the reader feel sympathy towards the mother’s feelings. Even though, it’s amazing to see your child grow up right in front of your eyes, the mother is not always going to be with them by the time school starts. For example, by the time their children grow up they are going to relay less on their mother leaving her at home becoming

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