I know I am no expert after reading this book, but I have already picked up on little things my friends and family could improve on in their own relationships. For an example, my brother and his girlfriend, Bobbi. They have been off and on for about six years now and can never seem to figure out what keeps happening to make their relationship fail. I had a conversation with Bobbi this weekend about their relationship and I discovered they are the king and queen of the four horseman. Whenever they argue it is always criticizing the other. Then the other becomes extremely defensive to the point where they just have to drop the argument, because they start stonewalling. They also have a problem with repair attempts. They are both very stubborn
