“You can talk with someone for years, every day, and still, it won't mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever.... connections are made with the heart, not the tongue.”(C. JoyBell C., http://goo.gl/DD8BYx). This quote is basically implying that you can talk to someone all your life but not really know them unless you have felt them from within your heart. For example, my mother Domingas and I have had many difficulties in our relationship, not only in the past but still continuing till this day. This may be because of the lack of communication between us, and situations where we have constantly misunderstood
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Even though the stereotyping is not pointed directly to me, it still has an effect on the way I see people. My mother often stereotypes the females that I date based on their race. I remember a point in my life where I brought home a female to meet my mother. My mother did everything that a good host would do when they have a guest, and that would be offering drinks, being polite, and mainly offering food. Of course I did not have a problem with the hospitality but what I did have a problem with was what my mother said after the girl left. As soon as the girl left my mother said, “why are you bringing home Spanish girls?!” Following that remark she explained how all Spanish girls are trouble and how all they do is cheat and take your money. Not only does this make me not want to have a girl meet her, it also creates a boundary between us, shutting out the desire to tell her about my personal life. This is only one example of the stereotyping that effects our relationship. There was another time where she dropped me off at a basketball court, but before I got out of the car she tells me to stay away from the dark kids because they are dangerous. Stereotyping is one of the conflicts that are at the top of the list of our relationship
Even though the stereotyping is not pointed directly to me, it still has an effect on the way I see people. My mother often stereotypes the females that I date based on their race. I remember a point in my life where I brought home a female to meet my mother. My mother did everything that a good host would do when they have a guest, and that would be offering drinks, being polite, and mainly offering food. Of course I did not have a problem with the hospitality but what I did have a problem with was what my mother said after the girl left. As soon as the girl left my mother said, “why are you bringing home Spanish girls?!” Following that remark she explained how all Spanish girls are trouble and how all they do is cheat and take your money. Not only does this make me not want to have a girl meet her, it also creates a boundary between us, shutting out the desire to tell her about my personal life. This is only one example of the stereotyping that effects our relationship. There was another time where she dropped me off at a basketball court, but before I got out of the car she tells me to stay away from the dark kids because they are dangerous. Stereotyping is one of the conflicts that are at the top of the list of our relationship