Stephen Chbosky Personal Response

Stephen Chbosky has a famous quote that says “We accept the love we think we deserve”, and I found this out first-hand way back in October 2014. One day after school my best friend Erika, a bright bubbling spirit and I went to go hang out with our loud, dramatic friend Lisa and her friends after school. So, Erika and I trekked over to Lisa’s house and we went in and Lisa had some friends that we did not know over. As we did introductions, a boy named John introduced himself to me. John was extremely cute to me. John was was about 5’10” with braces and light brown eyes, as gentle as my favorite latte and he smelled terrific which was a bonus. I was immediately intrigued by him so I tried to play off my interest in him but he was really funny …show more content…
I wanted to believe that it would not happen again and that he was not lying. Sadly, that was not the case I found out the first time he cheated on me he had cheated twice that week with another girl I was not specifically fond of. When I found that out I convinced myself that it was the past and that it did not matter anymore. By this time, I was spending every day with him. My friends teased me about how much I liked him because it was he was my main focus by the summer. I spent almost every day with him almost subconsciously trying to make sure he would not cheat on me again. When August came John and I were arguing more and more. My best friend Erika was also moving to Maryland in August so I was dealing with a lot of emotions combined with the fact that freshman year was about to start. As time went on John tried to pressure me into things I was not comfortable with which frustrated both of us. One August night we got into a really nasty …show more content…
I thought I was ruined and that everything that made my life fun and worth living for were leaving me and it was unbearable. I realized how much of my self-worth I put into other people’s eyes and minds. In the back of my mind, the real reason I didn’t demand more respect was because I honestly thought I was lucky to even have the attention of someone I liked that much. That Friday when my best friend left I promised her and myself that I would not let someone treat with anything but love, care, and support and that anyone who could not provide those things for me was not worth knowing. Ever since then, I began an uphill battle of loving myself and demanding respect from the people I encounter in my daily life. It has helped me tremendously and my life has flourished and improved because of