In “The Ways We Lie” by Stephanie Ericsson she discusses and breaks down the activity of lying into different kinds of lies. Ericsson goes into great detail of about 10 of them, but there are many more. Some lies are for your peace of mind and maybe still bad for both parties, and some are for the better of someone else’s feelings. Ericsson believes that even if you feel you are perfect, nobody is and still tell lies no matter big or small, we do it and at times are unaware that it is considered a lie. Individuals nowadays get to a point where they are lying and don’t know whether to believe themselves or others. They are caught in a delusion of what their life or the world around them is. Day to day we are fictitious even with the smallest
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Telling children there is a Santa Claus or other mythical creature is also lying but for the sake of a child’s heart, it is also fun and bringing the imagination out in them. There are multiple ways we lie, and Ericsson was bringing this to light. We put such a bad stereotype to it, and we know when there is a time to tell a lie for good or evil. Telling a lie just depends on how we want the result to be. Ericsson, of course, did not condone this but knew that by giving these examples more people would come to terms with seeing the good and evil of it. By acknowledging that stereotypes were also considered lies. Judging one person by their gender, skin color or status and applying it to others, may, in the end, be assuming over real facts. Ericsson states “We lie. We all do. We exaggerate, we minimize, we avoid confrontation, we spare people’s feelings, we conveniently forget, we keep secrets, we justify lying to the big-guy institutions.” (Kindle Locations …show more content…
Sometimes you come up with an excuse for any situation, and it usually is exaggerated slightly which in the end is a lie. Why do we lie? What would the purpose be? To spare your family hurt feelings when you receive a gift and you tell them you loved it, and in the end, you dislike very much. You save their feelings at that moment but later on when they ask about it and notice you don’t wear or use it they become suspicious and find out you honestly just didn’t like it to begin with. At that moment, they feel upset, and you feel worse than you would if you were up front and let them know it wasn’t for you. We lie without even batting an eye, we may think we are polite and sparing other feelings or not trying to come off a snob or disrespectful but we do it. By thinking, we are well mannered, and an “Angel” and telling a small fib to be kind to the other person does not make you perfect, that is still lying and worse off than genuinely being polite and telling the truth. When lying comes into play, negative feedback or responses are well needed. We may have a bad day or need to do a service better, and if we are continually lying to others, we cannot fix something. By continuously being lied to does not fix a situation, for example in a marriage if your spouse continues to lie over and over again to you and one day you learn the truth, you are more upset then if you had known the truth the
Telling children there is a Santa Claus or other mythical creature is also lying but for the sake of a child’s heart, it is also fun and bringing the imagination out in them. There are multiple ways we lie, and Ericsson was bringing this to light. We put such a bad stereotype to it, and we know when there is a time to tell a lie for good or evil. Telling a lie just depends on how we want the result to be. Ericsson, of course, did not condone this but knew that by giving these examples more people would come to terms with seeing the good and evil of it. By acknowledging that stereotypes were also considered lies. Judging one person by their gender, skin color or status and applying it to others, may, in the end, be assuming over real facts. Ericsson states “We lie. We all do. We exaggerate, we minimize, we avoid confrontation, we spare people’s feelings, we conveniently forget, we keep secrets, we justify lying to the big-guy institutions.” (Kindle Locations …show more content…
Sometimes you come up with an excuse for any situation, and it usually is exaggerated slightly which in the end is a lie. Why do we lie? What would the purpose be? To spare your family hurt feelings when you receive a gift and you tell them you loved it, and in the end, you dislike very much. You save their feelings at that moment but later on when they ask about it and notice you don’t wear or use it they become suspicious and find out you honestly just didn’t like it to begin with. At that moment, they feel upset, and you feel worse than you would if you were up front and let them know it wasn’t for you. We lie without even batting an eye, we may think we are polite and sparing other feelings or not trying to come off a snob or disrespectful but we do it. By thinking, we are well mannered, and an “Angel” and telling a small fib to be kind to the other person does not make you perfect, that is still lying and worse off than genuinely being polite and telling the truth. When lying comes into play, negative feedback or responses are well needed. We may have a bad day or need to do a service better, and if we are continually lying to others, we cannot fix something. By continuously being lied to does not fix a situation, for example in a marriage if your spouse continues to lie over and over again to you and one day you learn the truth, you are more upset then if you had known the truth the