Expect To Be Called A Stand Patter Essay

I like the quote "Expect to be called a stand patter, but don’t be a stand patter. Expect to be called a demagogue, but don’t be a demagogue," in the speech given by Calvin Coolidge at Massachusetts. It might have a different meaning but to me, it means not to be what people call us. This is a common problem in the world today. We live by what people call us; our every steps and breaths are determined by people. A few weeks ago in my Chem class, a friend of mine asked me a question. She said, "Temmy, am I smart, Mona says I 'm not." I thought to myself why is she asking me that question? If I say yes, she will get over herself. She will be on cloud 9. If I say no, then she will get depressed and decide that she 's is not smart. She might even …show more content…
When I was a kid, I like dancing and they call me to audition at lots of events. But people all around me said I was no good. I gave these people permission to get to me and they ruined every single audition I went to. Immediately I got onstage, I freeze and started remembering all those words they said to me. "Temmy, you are no good." "You will just humiliate yourself in front of the judges." You are not pretty and there are lots of people that are prettier than you who are also auditioning." All these words start pouring through my brain and made me freeze onstage. Looking back now I realize how foolish I was to let those people get to me. I gave them the power to ruin what could have been a fascinating period of my adolescent life. My mum tells me these all the time: "those that call you names, call you those names because they are jealous of you. They want your life. They want to live your life. But since they can 't, they try their uttermost to ruin it. They say behind you that 'if I can 't be you, then I will ruin you till there is nothing left. '" I always thought she was talking gibberish but now I realize that what she says all the time is a powerful …show more content…
She told me I 'm a bitch and now I 've turned into one." We can 't keep blaming these for whatever we turn out to be. "Expect to be called a stand patter, but don 't be a stand patter." We are who we turn ourselves to be and not what people say we are or what people call us. By acting on the things people say we are, we are unwittingly giving these people the key to rule our lives. We made them king over us. We enthroned them. We tell them just like the lyrics from one of William McDowell songs, "my life is not my own, to you I belong, I give myself, I give myself to you." Why do we give this people the power and key to rule over our lives? Are we not capable enough of maintaining such important thing? A grandma I knew used to say this quote all the time. "Y 'all say I 'm foolish. But I know deep down that I ain 't no foolish woman." Why don 't we try using positive affirmations on ourselves. It will promote our self confidence. Thereby, giving us the confidence to rule over our lives. I watched a movie a long time ago while in my country; the movie was titled "Temiloluwa." The main character in the movie was a young lady and because she came from a very poor background, people use to tell that she will be nothing in