Relationships have never been something I have been good at whether it was friendships, romantic relationships or even my family relationships. I have a very small amount of people in my life that I consider close to me one of which is my boyfriend DeVante. DeVante and I met in high school and have been together for a year and ten months. We have been through so much together in such a little amount of time but I would not trade it for the world. He knows me better than anyone and as outrageous as it sounds he is the love of my life. DeVante and I’s relationship has been through all the coming together and coming apart stages that are apart of Knapp’s theory. Knapp’s theory explains the process and steps a relationship goes through.
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DeVante and I would text all day and call each other at night. We went on dates and always saw each other at school. Everyone at school knew we were together; he walked me to all my classes, we ate lunch together, we were inseparable. I began to open up to him about my problems and in return he did the same a close bond was formed between him and I. The fifth stage of Knapp’s theory is called the bonding stage. In the bonding stage you are at the peak of you relationship you are extremely public and know almost everything there is about each other. This part in my relationship lasted a few months and was amazing. We picked up on each other’s habits and knew each other’s secrets. We were in love, we were happy and we were closer than best friends. This is the end of the coming together stages. Next are the coming apart stages and stage number 6 is referred to as the differentiating stage. In this stage a problem arises in the relationship. In every relationship conflict will occur and in mine it happened about three months into the relationship. I found out I had to go to Portugal for almost all of August. When I told DeVante this it was initially an argument because he didn’t want me to leave and the closer it got to August the more significant of a problem it
DeVante and I would text all day and call each other at night. We went on dates and always saw each other at school. Everyone at school knew we were together; he walked me to all my classes, we ate lunch together, we were inseparable. I began to open up to him about my problems and in return he did the same a close bond was formed between him and I. The fifth stage of Knapp’s theory is called the bonding stage. In the bonding stage you are at the peak of you relationship you are extremely public and know almost everything there is about each other. This part in my relationship lasted a few months and was amazing. We picked up on each other’s habits and knew each other’s secrets. We were in love, we were happy and we were closer than best friends. This is the end of the coming together stages. Next are the coming apart stages and stage number 6 is referred to as the differentiating stage. In this stage a problem arises in the relationship. In every relationship conflict will occur and in mine it happened about three months into the relationship. I found out I had to go to Portugal for almost all of August. When I told DeVante this it was initially an argument because he didn’t want me to leave and the closer it got to August the more significant of a problem it