Stages Of Grief

Death was something beyond my understanding until April 27, 2010. The loss of a love one will leave you with a number of unexplainable feelings. Seven years ago, I lost my best friend, my role model but most importantly my sister, Ashely. The impact of death has different effects on different people. As I went through numerous stages of sadness, anger and guilt, I also found personal growth. Embracing the stages I went through formed the healing process that eventually brought happiness. Being so young and enduring such a tragedy, I knew from that point forward I would be able to overcome all. At the time of trying to overcome this heartbreaking experience, it felt like a battle I could not win. Feeling like everything I once knew had now become foreign. I remember being in denial and saying things like, “I cannot believe it is true.” I spent numerous months being mad at the world and myself. Coming to realization that grief will not define me or the rest of my life. The final stage of grief for me was acceptance. Learning to take all energy from the pain and invest it into something positive. I did this by keeping her alive from all the memories we …show more content…
I have learned to adapt and take each day one at a time. Some awful while others are bearable but the death of a sibling never goes away. As I experienced loss, the growth is what made me stronger. Nicholas Sparks said, “There are moments when I wish I could roll back the clock and take all the sadness away, but I have the feeling that if I did, the joy would be gone as well.” These last seven years I have learned to look at things from a much more positive perspective. My sister’s death molded me into the woman I am today and I can proudly say that. Through this tragedy, I have found the keys to happiness: love yourself, appreciate the little things, forgive yourself for the things that have already happened, and show love all those around as if it were your last