Friends: Organizations > Clubs
If you've read my post on making friends, you know it all really comes down to three things: 1.) biology (finding the right culture), 2.) spending enough time with the people to gain their trust, and, finally, 3.) letting your guard down.
And I've talked about, especially for the shy introvert when it comes to fulfilling these three requirements, focusing on your career, school, and club activities.
But clubs should be are a very distant third option for introverts as you might not get enough "face time", or not let your guard down at all, to transition these people to friends.
But what if you are a shy introvert who is out of school and you need your current job to pay the bills (you don't hate your job, …show more content…
That is almost as hard as my suggestion to move to make friends.
Then aren't clubs your only answer? But I'm sure many of you tried many different clubs only to fail to get friends. And a few of you have grown frustrated trying it again and again and again.
The answer?
Join organizations instead of clubs?
Wait, aren't organizations basically the same thing as clubs?
Here is the difference. Clubs are an activity / habit you like to do with people (going to the gym, yoga class, a sports club, etc.). Organizations have a mission you all are trying to accomplish. And to be part of that organization, you must be actively working with the members to achieve that certain goal.
And since you are spending so much time and energy with these people, organizations are, basically, a second job.
Ah, now you've made the connection!
And that becomes a perfect way for the shy introvert to get to know people.
Turning a Club into an Organization
You should only join organizations you are passionate about (I know I'm a big advocate of not doing a job because it is your passion, but organizations are different).
But what if your only passion is that yoga class on
If you've read my post on making friends, you know it all really comes down to three things: 1.) biology (finding the right culture), 2.) spending enough time with the people to gain their trust, and, finally, 3.) letting your guard down.
And I've talked about, especially for the shy introvert when it comes to fulfilling these three requirements, focusing on your career, school, and club activities.
But clubs should be are a very distant third option for introverts as you might not get enough "face time", or not let your guard down at all, to transition these people to friends.
But what if you are a shy introvert who is out of school and you need your current job to pay the bills (you don't hate your job, …show more content…
That is almost as hard as my suggestion to move to make friends.
Then aren't clubs your only answer? But I'm sure many of you tried many different clubs only to fail to get friends. And a few of you have grown frustrated trying it again and again and again.
The answer?
Join organizations instead of clubs?
Wait, aren't organizations basically the same thing as clubs?
Here is the difference. Clubs are an activity / habit you like to do with people (going to the gym, yoga class, a sports club, etc.). Organizations have a mission you all are trying to accomplish. And to be part of that organization, you must be actively working with the members to achieve that certain goal.
And since you are spending so much time and energy with these people, organizations are, basically, a second job.
Ah, now you've made the connection!
And that becomes a perfect way for the shy introvert to get to know people.
Turning a Club into an Organization
You should only join organizations you are passionate about (I know I'm a big advocate of not doing a job because it is your passion, but organizations are different).
But what if your only passion is that yoga class on