Introduction For this reflection, I did an interview over the phone with my roommate's father, Manuel. Manuel has two sons in their thirties from his first wife, that no longer live with him in Dorchester, Massachusetts.. He has two daughters (twenty and eighteen), and a son (thirteen) with his current wife. Manuel and his wife were raised in the Dominican Republic, and moved to the United States when they were in their early twenties to raise their families.
Parenting Practices and Socio-Cultural Influences In the Process of Parenting, Jane Brooks describes two cultural models: independent and interdependence. Manuel fits under the interdependence cultural model. This model focuses on collectivism, and puts a strong emphasis …show more content…
Growing up, one of my best friends was Vietnamese, and had a very traditional Vietnamese uprising. I very specifically remember her telling me one day that her and her sister were punished and had to kneel in the corner of their living room for a half an hour, and that struck me as so completely bizarre, but now it makes sense. Punishment and discipline is very controversial. I was raised in a household where physical punishment was not accepted; I actually do not believe that any of my friends from home were punished physically, it consisted of more verbal punishments. It was not until I started going to UNH and met my roommate and others that they had talked about being hit with a belt when they were younger, and it is almost jovial to them. They strongly believe that they needed to be hit, to learn a lesson, whereas my friends from home and I believe in the exact opposite. I believe that corporate punishment, and physical punishment is something that is dealt with differently depending on your socio-culture status. After just recently covering punishment and discipline in my HDFS 641: Parenting Across the Lifespan Class, I have learned that there are many other solutions than hitting to get your child to obey rules and obligations. I believe that children should not be reprimanded for all of their mistakes so harshly; they need a chance to learn that mistakes are 'okay' to make, because that is how we learn and …show more content…
Dorchester (in the nineties and early two thousands) was had one of the highest percentage of victims with violent-crime related injuries (Wikipedia). Raising children in a dangerous area can instill fear in a parent that they might get hurt, or be caught up with a dangerous group of individuals. I do not think that such strict punishment has greatly impacted the development of my roommate, but I do think that it continues a potentially dangerous cycle, and it is not to say that it will not affect her children's development if she so choses to implement a strict punishment
Parenting Practices and Socio-Cultural Influences In the Process of Parenting, Jane Brooks describes two cultural models: independent and interdependence. Manuel fits under the interdependence cultural model. This model focuses on collectivism, and puts a strong emphasis …show more content…
Growing up, one of my best friends was Vietnamese, and had a very traditional Vietnamese uprising. I very specifically remember her telling me one day that her and her sister were punished and had to kneel in the corner of their living room for a half an hour, and that struck me as so completely bizarre, but now it makes sense. Punishment and discipline is very controversial. I was raised in a household where physical punishment was not accepted; I actually do not believe that any of my friends from home were punished physically, it consisted of more verbal punishments. It was not until I started going to UNH and met my roommate and others that they had talked about being hit with a belt when they were younger, and it is almost jovial to them. They strongly believe that they needed to be hit, to learn a lesson, whereas my friends from home and I believe in the exact opposite. I believe that corporate punishment, and physical punishment is something that is dealt with differently depending on your socio-culture status. After just recently covering punishment and discipline in my HDFS 641: Parenting Across the Lifespan Class, I have learned that there are many other solutions than hitting to get your child to obey rules and obligations. I believe that children should not be reprimanded for all of their mistakes so harshly; they need a chance to learn that mistakes are 'okay' to make, because that is how we learn and …show more content…
Dorchester (in the nineties and early two thousands) was had one of the highest percentage of victims with violent-crime related injuries (Wikipedia). Raising children in a dangerous area can instill fear in a parent that they might get hurt, or be caught up with a dangerous group of individuals. I do not think that such strict punishment has greatly impacted the development of my roommate, but I do think that it continues a potentially dangerous cycle, and it is not to say that it will not affect her children's development if she so choses to implement a strict punishment