Too Driven for Some
In this essay I will describe how my social styles impact my relationships with others as well as how I can change that. A social style is described in On Course written by Skip Downing. Social styles are defined as our style of interaction. I am a driver/amiable which means that I value my success before others. As well as not valuing others emotions. Challenges I face in my relationships that are a potential causes of social style differences are large. Therefore, I struggle dealing with those who are so consumed with others feelings and emotions that they let the expense of their goals and accomplishments not happen. From them being afraid to hurt others feelings or destroy relationships.
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Ever since I was in the seventh grade I upheld a leadership position. From section leader in band in middle school to my pursuit of moving up in the ranks to Cadet Colonel in high school in the Junior Reserve Officer Training Corps to the present where I am a leader for a recovery program at my church. Being goal oriented has been the way that I survived. If I do not have a goal or know what I am going to achieve I begin to get …show more content…
Being a byproduct of a divorced family I was given less accountability. My mom worked for the school transportation company and my dad worked in the oilfield to pay child support. They didn’t go to college, nor made plans to excel. They were prepared for me not to graduate. Therefore, my source of accountability was myself. For generations my families has been in this state of mind. As I analyzed this I determined that was not the life for me. So in the coming months of turning 18 I moved out and moved in with my now to be known adopted parents. This moment was when I truly realized the opportunities I had. That moment my social style became clear and I finally understood my misunderstanding with my parents. Yes it was partially the abuse I endured but also the fact that I am so driven. Learning this I learned how to face difficult people in my life. When I am faced with difficult people I try not to look close minded and look at the bigger picture. When I do that I can comprehend better why they are responding that way or acting that. In doing this I have been able to increase my social skills. In the past I would just look in my eyes, doing that I upset others and couldn’t understand
In this essay I will describe how my social styles impact my relationships with others as well as how I can change that. A social style is described in On Course written by Skip Downing. Social styles are defined as our style of interaction. I am a driver/amiable which means that I value my success before others. As well as not valuing others emotions. Challenges I face in my relationships that are a potential causes of social style differences are large. Therefore, I struggle dealing with those who are so consumed with others feelings and emotions that they let the expense of their goals and accomplishments not happen. From them being afraid to hurt others feelings or destroy relationships.
My social styles explain the …show more content…
Ever since I was in the seventh grade I upheld a leadership position. From section leader in band in middle school to my pursuit of moving up in the ranks to Cadet Colonel in high school in the Junior Reserve Officer Training Corps to the present where I am a leader for a recovery program at my church. Being goal oriented has been the way that I survived. If I do not have a goal or know what I am going to achieve I begin to get …show more content…
Being a byproduct of a divorced family I was given less accountability. My mom worked for the school transportation company and my dad worked in the oilfield to pay child support. They didn’t go to college, nor made plans to excel. They were prepared for me not to graduate. Therefore, my source of accountability was myself. For generations my families has been in this state of mind. As I analyzed this I determined that was not the life for me. So in the coming months of turning 18 I moved out and moved in with my now to be known adopted parents. This moment was when I truly realized the opportunities I had. That moment my social style became clear and I finally understood my misunderstanding with my parents. Yes it was partially the abuse I endured but also the fact that I am so driven. Learning this I learned how to face difficult people in my life. When I am faced with difficult people I try not to look close minded and look at the bigger picture. When I do that I can comprehend better why they are responding that way or acting that. In doing this I have been able to increase my social skills. In the past I would just look in my eyes, doing that I upset others and couldn’t understand