Society creates many stereotypes that are distinguishable by the general public such as, the saying boys will be boys and the correlation between girls and the color pink. Personally, I grew up as a tomboy, and still am today at age eighteen. Growing up as a girl does come with its own set of expectations that society sets. When I was in elementary school I always hung out with boys because we had common interests like playing soccer, going to the pool, and playing videogames. I never realized how much I defied the social norm. Thinking back, I was probably heavily judged upon because I fell out of the girl stereotype. The reason I did not play with many girls is because I liked doing things sporty and since most girls at that age are not into
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Finding our true self is hard in today’s society because we are confined into certain expectations that are difficult to break. In Aaron Devor’s essay “Becoming Members of society’s: learning the social meanings of gender” highlights the juxtapositions the impact between how we perceive ourselves and how society sees us. Devor, like Kimmel, focuses on gender and how people are expected to fill these gender roles that actually start at very young age. Devor presents gender as black and white, male or female, there is no grey area or between. He also presents us with the idea of an “I”, “me”. The “I” stands for how one wants to represent oneself, while the “me” represents how society thinks one should act and the combination of the two create the “me”. Gender is more than just being male or female, it is the traits that contribute and make up the specific identity. When children are young they don’t relate gender by sex but by the attributes and traits one displays. They distinguish gender by a few key physical aspects like one’s hair length and by choice in clothing. Although all these physical features are subjective this helps “develop concepts of themselves as individuals” (Devor 389). These concepts set the preliminary baseline on how people start to identify themselves. The “I” and the “me” start to combine into a “self” which Devor explains is a mixture between the two and the “self” is …show more content…
Men are expected to present themselves as being dominate and emotionless. Anything that could possibly question their manliness could be as simple as clothing, hair style, athleticism, and emotional state would be detrimental to their persona. Proving oneself is a “never ending test” (Kimmel 468) that one will never pass at. Not all men should be hard headed and emotionless, if they achieved this, they would not be human. Humanity is fluid there is no right or wrong way to live even if society thinks there is. Men should not feel confined into the “guy code” because society should not limit or expect certain traits or behaviors. In addition, homosexuality should stop becoming a negatively used word, but just used to describe what it actually entails. Even though the stereotypical gay man is very feminine that does not decrease his masculinity because masculinity is subjective to what society makes it to be. If society could stop pressuring the genders to follow within their own regulations, there would be less judgement and hate within the
Finding our true self is hard in today’s society because we are confined into certain expectations that are difficult to break. In Aaron Devor’s essay “Becoming Members of society’s: learning the social meanings of gender” highlights the juxtapositions the impact between how we perceive ourselves and how society sees us. Devor, like Kimmel, focuses on gender and how people are expected to fill these gender roles that actually start at very young age. Devor presents gender as black and white, male or female, there is no grey area or between. He also presents us with the idea of an “I”, “me”. The “I” stands for how one wants to represent oneself, while the “me” represents how society thinks one should act and the combination of the two create the “me”. Gender is more than just being male or female, it is the traits that contribute and make up the specific identity. When children are young they don’t relate gender by sex but by the attributes and traits one displays. They distinguish gender by a few key physical aspects like one’s hair length and by choice in clothing. Although all these physical features are subjective this helps “develop concepts of themselves as individuals” (Devor 389). These concepts set the preliminary baseline on how people start to identify themselves. The “I” and the “me” start to combine into a “self” which Devor explains is a mixture between the two and the “self” is …show more content…
Men are expected to present themselves as being dominate and emotionless. Anything that could possibly question their manliness could be as simple as clothing, hair style, athleticism, and emotional state would be detrimental to their persona. Proving oneself is a “never ending test” (Kimmel 468) that one will never pass at. Not all men should be hard headed and emotionless, if they achieved this, they would not be human. Humanity is fluid there is no right or wrong way to live even if society thinks there is. Men should not feel confined into the “guy code” because society should not limit or expect certain traits or behaviors. In addition, homosexuality should stop becoming a negatively used word, but just used to describe what it actually entails. Even though the stereotypical gay man is very feminine that does not decrease his masculinity because masculinity is subjective to what society makes it to be. If society could stop pressuring the genders to follow within their own regulations, there would be less judgement and hate within the