She argues that when it comes to sex most couples only talk about whether they want to have sex or not, but Bussel is saying that it shouldn’t be just about saying “yes” or “no” but by what kind of sex and be more open about what the partners want. She says that “When it comes to hookups, you don’t have the luxury of being able to read someone’s body language or “just know”” by emphasizing the fact that when it comes to having sexual intercourse with strangers, it is important for the partners to not just consent but to also have a vocal communication or else “we are simply guessing” (44) . The reason why there is rape or sexual assault is because the victim did not consent to having any kind of sex, but there have been cases where the sexual offender affirms that the victim consent in having sex and give scenarios like “she was drunk, she came to his room, she got naked, she did…” In this case when she does not remember then it means that the women have been under the influence of alcohol or drugs which affected her consent or the women and the stranger did not discuss about their preferences. Bussel is arguing that communication is very important to talk about the likes and dislikes of the partner which is why FASPVA members will attend weekly sessions about healthy relationships, what it means to consent, violence in all communities, the consequences of using drugs and alcohol on
She argues that when it comes to sex most couples only talk about whether they want to have sex or not, but Bussel is saying that it shouldn’t be just about saying “yes” or “no” but by what kind of sex and be more open about what the partners want. She says that “When it comes to hookups, you don’t have the luxury of being able to read someone’s body language or “just know”” by emphasizing the fact that when it comes to having sexual intercourse with strangers, it is important for the partners to not just consent but to also have a vocal communication or else “we are simply guessing” (44) . The reason why there is rape or sexual assault is because the victim did not consent to having any kind of sex, but there have been cases where the sexual offender affirms that the victim consent in having sex and give scenarios like “she was drunk, she came to his room, she got naked, she did…” In this case when she does not remember then it means that the women have been under the influence of alcohol or drugs which affected her consent or the women and the stranger did not discuss about their preferences. Bussel is arguing that communication is very important to talk about the likes and dislikes of the partner which is why FASPVA members will attend weekly sessions about healthy relationships, what it means to consent, violence in all communities, the consequences of using drugs and alcohol on