When I came to the United States, I was educated and spoke English. It was British English; the pronunciation, spellings of some words and some of the grammar were completely different. When I enrolled in middle school, everybody made fun of me; all the students thought I was not smart because I could not communicate with them in American English. However, it was not just hard to communicate with other men, but it was also hard to communicate with women because I am a man. I believe that there is a difference in how individuals communicate; it all depends on a person’s gender and the language he or she grew up speaking. The main point that Deborah Tannen discusses in “Sex, Lies, and Conversation” is how men and women communicate with each
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How one speaks will measure one’s worth in society. Society views Tan’s mother negatively when she could not communicate clearly. Tan describes many events that show readers how her mother was not being respected for not speaking clear English. Most of the time Tan has to speak for her mother because she has trouble communicating with others in English. On the other hand, Tan speaks clear English. Through the article, Tan describes how the English language is important to speak in America, and how society will view one if one does not speak English …show more content…
In a relationship, every couple has to adjust to one another; adjustments and compromising in a relationship are as important as communication. However adjusting and communicating is not everyone’s cup of tea. When I was in a relationship, I adjusted most of the time by going to watch romantic movies with my girlfriend or going shopping for the whole weekend. However, when it came to talking, I just could not bear it. I had to look at her when she was talking because she would get upset. I had to give immediate feedback, and I had to remember what she said, which was just too much. I felt I was her computer not a boyfriend who would remember everything. Some men like to listen, for example, my dad. My dad and my mom go every day for a walk, and they just talk and talk till they get home. However, I am not like my dad. Tannen says in “Sex, Lies, and Conversation” that “Some men really don’t like to listen, because being the listener makes them feel one-down, like a child listening to adults or an employee to a boss” (72). When I confronted my girlfriend that I don’t like to talk, she got mad and we had a huge fight. After the fight, we broke up. I felt like the men in Tannen’s quote, and my relationship with my girlfriend was not like a man and a woman but like a secretary and a boss. Like I said earlier, adjusting and communicating is the key in any relationship, I
How one speaks will measure one’s worth in society. Society views Tan’s mother negatively when she could not communicate clearly. Tan describes many events that show readers how her mother was not being respected for not speaking clear English. Most of the time Tan has to speak for her mother because she has trouble communicating with others in English. On the other hand, Tan speaks clear English. Through the article, Tan describes how the English language is important to speak in America, and how society will view one if one does not speak English …show more content…
In a relationship, every couple has to adjust to one another; adjustments and compromising in a relationship are as important as communication. However adjusting and communicating is not everyone’s cup of tea. When I was in a relationship, I adjusted most of the time by going to watch romantic movies with my girlfriend or going shopping for the whole weekend. However, when it came to talking, I just could not bear it. I had to look at her when she was talking because she would get upset. I had to give immediate feedback, and I had to remember what she said, which was just too much. I felt I was her computer not a boyfriend who would remember everything. Some men like to listen, for example, my dad. My dad and my mom go every day for a walk, and they just talk and talk till they get home. However, I am not like my dad. Tannen says in “Sex, Lies, and Conversation” that “Some men really don’t like to listen, because being the listener makes them feel one-down, like a child listening to adults or an employee to a boss” (72). When I confronted my girlfriend that I don’t like to talk, she got mad and we had a huge fight. After the fight, we broke up. I felt like the men in Tannen’s quote, and my relationship with my girlfriend was not like a man and a woman but like a secretary and a boss. Like I said earlier, adjusting and communicating is the key in any relationship, I