' Seven Ways Your Siblings Make You Who You Are?

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Influence to the Tenth Degree On a rather cold spring day in March 1998, seven restless children found themselves in the driveway of their new home to big welcoming arms of their new set of parents and three new siblings. Like new dogs in a dog park, we ran up to each other and stared at one another, to get a feel as see how each of us were, 10 different personalities, some shy, reserved and others more blunt and outgoing. A melting pot of two different upbringings, cultures and ways of life, we all became one two years later and would be adopted into our forever home. Growing up as military brat children, our father was gone for long periods of time, while our mother worked long hours as a nurse in our one and only local hospital. …show more content…
Coming from such a large family, if you were not the oldest or the youngest, you needed to do something to stand out to your family and friends. A psychologist and an associate professor at the College of New Jersey, Jeanine Vivona has stated: “Kids do this to minimize rivalry with one another.” My older sister had the brains, while my younger sister was the “baby” who did no wrong. We constantly battled with one another for the attention of my parents, which I believe resulted in us being successful in our own talents. While my older brothers turned to partying and my younger siblings turned to musical talents and agriculture, I differentiated myself by turning to sports. I was the town athlete who lived for Friday nights to get my 10 seconds of fame from my parents. Another constant battle came from sharing the minimal resources we had, the one Xbox, who got the bathrooms first and things like who got the last bowl of cereal. My siblings and I had to learn how to sweet talk one another and manipulate each other into having something we did not get to first. We learned at an early age how to barter because my parents did not spoil us by buying one of the same things for all ten of us. In the article “6 Ways Your Siblings Make You Who You Are” they …show more content…
Your odds of sitting alone at lunch or not having someone pick you for your team was decreased because growing up in a small town, your sibling was more than likely doing the same activity as you. “Close sibling connections are frequently associated with lower levels of loneliness and depression, and higher levels of self-esteem,” says Kathleen Mulpeter, “6 Ways Your Siblings Make You Who You Are”. A sibling was always available to talk 24/7 when that certain someone would not return your phone call or text. They gave you advice when you were too scared to go to your parents, fearing backlash or punishment. Many times, we could always seek the help of one of our siblings when the resource wasn’t available to us. Four sisters to do your hair and makeup for the prom or five brothers to help you beat up that boy who left you crying. My siblings have taught one another multiple life lessons of how we should be treated by the opposite sex to what we want in a relationship or friendship. Growing up with multiple siblings has increased my standards, whether it be a good thing or bad. Having someone always available has led to being very cautious of who we let in and around our lives. According to the research at Ohio State University, having been a part of a big family may save your marriage. It decreases your chance of getting a divorce by 2% for every sibling you have.

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