Essay On Serial Monogamy

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The concept of serial monogamy was something I was familiar with, but a term I did not understand until completing the course. My father has been married a total of six times, and my mother has been married twice, but with five serious relationships that followed. We hear divorce rates are on the rise, and there is a commitment problem in America, and maybe so, but I believe it has to do with not being content with what you have. In class I learned serial monogamy has a lot to do with looking for an upgrade, or the next best thing. I also believe serial monogamy stems from being not being aware of The Big Transition from romantic love to intimacy.
Having experienced the reality of my parents having multiple relationships I believe the affects can be detrimental to children. As I explained earlier, I was ready to leave a good relationship because I thought I had fallen out of love. Not having an example to look to from by either of my parents, multiple relationships was becoming normative for me. I also believe when a parent raising a child has multiple relationships in
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I am the person who will pretend a problem does not exist to keep the peace. I think I learned this attitude from my aunt and uncle. I see my passive congenial attitude sometimes come out into my own relationship, and I have to remind myself ignoring conflict does not constitute a healthier relationship. I think the people who are in passive congenial marriages may have insecurities. Personally speaking, walking on egg shells around my partner is sometimes easier for me then resolving conflict. I have an irrational fear that resolving conflict will some how result in my partner leaving me, and I believe this stems from insecurities within myself and others. I could trace the insecurities back to my parent’s relationships and their failed relationships, but I have a choice now to recognize my own short comings and fix

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