Selfishness In 'Where Are You Going And Where Have You Been'

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Have you ever thought that you knew it all but indeed fell into a hole of oblivion and loss? To begin with, in the short story of “where are you going and where have you been”, both Connie and Arnold Friend emerge as selfish characters. Further, shown through the actions of Connie, in “where are you going and where have you been”, Joyce Carole Oates explains that if Connie shows selfishness and oblivion, other people like Arnold Friend would tend to use that against her for his advantage and her disadvantage.
Nonetheless, selfishness is a mean characteristic in ones persona. In which Connie has no shame in hiding that characteristic at all. Connie works hard to prove her maturity, but despite her efforts with clothes and boys, she is not as

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