Self-Help Lesson

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Tinisha Nicole Johnson is a first time author who has written a self-help book dedicated to gaining happiness, self-confidence, and self-worth as a black women. The book consist of 10 lessons each lesson teaches women how to deal with everyday problems women face within society and themselves. Though the book is directed to black women it also provides a voice to women of any race who struggle from the same issues in general. But this book is mainly explore issues relating directly to black women. Though each lesson is different these 3 lessons below really stuck with me. Lesson 1: Happiness is free and is found within you- It is not something you go looking for. Lesson 1 starts off defining what women tend to think will make them happy …show more content…
Studies show African American women don’t get help when it comes to depression we shy away from the topic because we believe depression is just a sign of weakness. But if we want to achieve happiness we have to take care of ourselves and see a doctor. Self-image has taken hold of many African American women due to see on TV and social media as the definition of beauty. Confidence is key to happiness. We can’t let others define what being beautiful is. If you want to change something for yourself do so, but don’t do it because it what our culture wants you to be. To really achieve inner happiness we must get our minds right, go out and find the outside things we want, and be aware of our situations and choices. At the end of each listen the author ends with what we learned in this lesson. Lesson 1 showed us that “Happiness is mental and by no means a rental. I have to learn from my lesson, because that’s the only way I can move forward. I am worthy of happiness and I deserve to be happy. I love myself as a women. And I love myself as a black woman”. …show more content…
Lesson 3 starts off asking what is your worth as a black woman? This question takes time to think about because it a hard question to answer as a black woman. Our self- worth has us feeling unworthy due to the color of our skin. The media has power over what black women think of themselves and once were caught up in it, that’s when we begin to doubt ourselves. Black women perceptions of themselves have changed because of the things we say to ourselves that we will never say out loud such as: I wish my skin was lighter, I wish my hair was more like a white woman or at least not so course or nappy, or I feel in competition with white women or light skinned women. This is where we show our insecurities. As a culture black women have to learn there worth much more then what society or the media believe we are worth. In lesson 3 we learned that “I am a person with a voice, I am rich in heritage. I am apart of humankind. I can’t really listen to He-said, She-said stuff, because it’s what God says that really accounts for my very existence. It doesn’t matter how you strip me, whip me, love me, hate me, or blind me, I am still a black women – that is who I am. I have to learn from my lesson, because that’s the only way I can move forward. I am worthy of happiness and I deserve to be happy. I love myself as a women. And I love myself as a black women”.

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