Secure of myself? Confident and reliable? How am I viewing others and my need for socialization? What are my traumas? These and many other questions I asked prior to writing frightening analysis. For my relief or sorrow, depending on how the content is interpreted, the secure attachment style characterizes my social interaction with others, be it horizontally (among people) or vertically (God & I).
I can firmly claim this style as mine because of the openness observed in most of my relationships. Firstly, in my connection with others, the balance between dependence and self-sufficiency, pride and sense of worth. Secondly, in the manner which I manage my emotions, the wide range of emotions that I experience, and my awareness …show more content…
I have been able to see this dominance of my feelings several times in the last couple of weeks: the way that I respond to my girlfriend’s unintentional forgetfulness or unresponsiveness, the manner in which I react to my roommate’s lack of cleanliness, or a good cologne; slow traffic, disrespect from others, and inattentive behavior of some people to life changing decisions I have been about to make. This emotional steadfastness is only a consequence of an ever growing relationship with God. I have learnt that when I am able to express to Him what I feel or think, my security depends no more on what the rest of the world does, but on the sovereignty of Christ who has paid my penalty and is now the mediator. Furthermore, this sense of safety has developed greater confidence in God and others, which in turn has lead others to rely on …show more content…
What do I think and feel and how do I respond to my feelings and thoughts? How do I behave when no one is around? Is there any difference between public self and private self? For these set of questions the answer could only be found in my core beliefs and my perception of the world as a consequence of my ideology. Furthermore, once I have formed and integrated my conception of the world into the way that I should behave, I understood that my personality is a result of the interaction between my beliefs and the surrounding. This became the lamp in my journey to comprehending my attachment style. My security is consequential and rooted in the existence of an almighty, sovereign, and capable God. Therefore, I don’t need to have comfort in my life or the right relationship to experience joy or reach self-actualization. However, the lack of relationships and comfort would cause pain and pull me closer to this God, which in turn would cause me to take refuge in human relationships. Additionally, I found that my actions are affected by my conscious activity, and this activity is modeled by my ideology. Finally, I know that my secure attachment is a product of my secure, and corresponded relationship with God, and that this security gives birth to a horizontal, relational