Self expansion is simply put as starting a new relationship in hopes that it will lead to a period or a lifetime of self discovery. This is often found the most beneficial in a committed relationship wherein the two people tend to seek new adventures together. Though Miller would counter in his writing of Intimate Relationships, that self expansion however positive has it own set of drawbacks that are not always apparent at the start of the relationship. He goes so far as to state that “ Once a new partner becomes familiar that, is when new partnerships become more bland and seem ordinary ” It should be noticed that the negative aspects of this phase in a relationship can be combated by finding new and exciting ways alleviate boredom. This
