Self Disclosure Paper

The 6 weeks is up, and it has come for us to promote some of our staff to handle our new job openings. We as part of the human resources team have taken a look at your previous work since you began a year ago, and it has been excellent. You are an asset to this company and you should continue to work as hard and as diligently as you have been. Unfortunately, we have come to the conclusion that we cannot promote you at this time. We know you have been looking to advance in this company, but it has been brought to our attention by your talk with Julie that you lack some skills vital to being a working cog in this company. Specifically your self-disclosure skill, or rather lack thereof. We hope that you will take the following constructive criticism …show more content…
You said “I don’t want to be one of those losers who still can't afford to buy his own house by the time he’s forty.” not knowing that Julie is still renting her house. Also blaming her for not promoting you because of your ethnicity was insulting. We do understand your thoughts and feelings but some things are better off left unsaid. For example according to Julie, in your conversation with her, you stated that you were in fact looking for other jobs at the time of your employment here. This is information does not need to be stated to your current employer, as it places us in a corner. It tells us that you really don’t desire a future at this company. And instead of promoting you we might even be better of firing you instead of continuing to pay an employee who is not devoted 100% to this company. Although you are a hard worker, we have other hard workers who have been here longer or possess the necessary skills, so it would be unfair to promote you before …show more content…
First ask yourself, are the amount and type of disclosure appropriate? When you do reveal information, you need to be careful not to reveal too much or too little. A time you could’ve used this guideline was when you brought up your opinion on home ownership, which was unnecessary information that didn’t fit in with the conversation. Next ask yourself, is the risk of disclosing reasonable? There may be benefits to revealing certain information, but sometimes the risks will outweigh them. You voiced your concerns about the lack of promotions, and revealed something about two of your coworkers, Bill and Latisha. Not only did you put their relationship with you at risk, but you also threatened their boss’s view of them.
These guidelines can be useful when disclosing information, but they’re not the only way to improve you self-disclosure skills. Alternatives can be used to avoid unpleasant situations caused by sharing certain thoughts and feelings, and although there are multiple alternatives that you can use, I believe that you can benefit the most from using