Self-control: The Taming of Emotions
Having self-control can be a hard thing to do. As human being, we are full of all types of emotions. Some are good, some are bad, some are happy and some are sad. They range in intensity from high to low and can be easily controlled to nearly impossible. There, we will examine self-control, what we are trying to control, and the methods and techniques that can aide in self-control.
First, let’s start out by discussing what self-control is. Self-control as defined by the Oxford Dictionary as “the ability to control oneself, in particular one’s emotions and desires or the expression of them in one’s behavior, especially in difficult situations”.
Being able to control oneself is an important factor in dealing …show more content…
As babies, self-control is none existence. We show emotions for everything; from crying because we are hungry to crying because we are either: full, sick, sleepy, in pain, or soiled ourselves. As we get older and our communication skills becomes better, our practice of self-control develops. We no longer express communication through emotions such as, crying; we can just tell our patents what we want or need. As we go from toddler to pre-teens, the emotion of anger, curiosity, and desire begins to take the forefront of our emotions. Here, our parents teaches us self-control in the form of patience and awareness. I know when I was a child, I have to learn patience when wanting to get on a particular ride or play a certain game and I had to wait my turn. My mother also taught me to be aware of my surrounding by looking in both directions before crossing the streets. As a teenager, I had to learn how to control my emotion while playing football. Football is a game that even though you learn proper techniques but those techniques are fueled by controlled aggression. Self-control plays a major part in football and sports in general. You have to have mastery of your emotion to be able to conduct yourself in an appropriate matter. …show more content…
For me, I found that by taking a deep breath, holding it for 1-3 seconds, and then exhaling works for me. Another method is called the Neuro-Linguistic Programming Technique or the Swish Technique. This is where you replace an unwanted thought with a more appropriate or relaxing one. We all seen someone else in person or on television where, when they get angry, they will stop and image themselves on a beach or island just relaxing and having a margarita. Then, you have the EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) Tapping. By tipping on various parts of your body such as, the wrist, eyebrow, temple (side of head), cheek, etc., while saying certain phrases are supposed to promote healing and alter your emotional state. Visualization is another one. This is where you predict what is going to happen before it happens, then a positive outcome. This is the case of always “looking for that silver lining”. If you think positive, then positive outcomes will happen. I have heard people say that time and time again, and how the effects of positive thinking can have on your mental state and environment. To me, that going along with what the power of prayer can achieve. The last one is the Freezing Framing Technique. This one, you picture the event in your head and freeze the one particular section(s) that giving you the most trouble like a picture frame. Now, picture yourself acting calmly and more
Having self-control can be a hard thing to do. As human being, we are full of all types of emotions. Some are good, some are bad, some are happy and some are sad. They range in intensity from high to low and can be easily controlled to nearly impossible. There, we will examine self-control, what we are trying to control, and the methods and techniques that can aide in self-control.
First, let’s start out by discussing what self-control is. Self-control as defined by the Oxford Dictionary as “the ability to control oneself, in particular one’s emotions and desires or the expression of them in one’s behavior, especially in difficult situations”.
Being able to control oneself is an important factor in dealing …show more content…
As babies, self-control is none existence. We show emotions for everything; from crying because we are hungry to crying because we are either: full, sick, sleepy, in pain, or soiled ourselves. As we get older and our communication skills becomes better, our practice of self-control develops. We no longer express communication through emotions such as, crying; we can just tell our patents what we want or need. As we go from toddler to pre-teens, the emotion of anger, curiosity, and desire begins to take the forefront of our emotions. Here, our parents teaches us self-control in the form of patience and awareness. I know when I was a child, I have to learn patience when wanting to get on a particular ride or play a certain game and I had to wait my turn. My mother also taught me to be aware of my surrounding by looking in both directions before crossing the streets. As a teenager, I had to learn how to control my emotion while playing football. Football is a game that even though you learn proper techniques but those techniques are fueled by controlled aggression. Self-control plays a major part in football and sports in general. You have to have mastery of your emotion to be able to conduct yourself in an appropriate matter. …show more content…
For me, I found that by taking a deep breath, holding it for 1-3 seconds, and then exhaling works for me. Another method is called the Neuro-Linguistic Programming Technique or the Swish Technique. This is where you replace an unwanted thought with a more appropriate or relaxing one. We all seen someone else in person or on television where, when they get angry, they will stop and image themselves on a beach or island just relaxing and having a margarita. Then, you have the EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) Tapping. By tipping on various parts of your body such as, the wrist, eyebrow, temple (side of head), cheek, etc., while saying certain phrases are supposed to promote healing and alter your emotional state. Visualization is another one. This is where you predict what is going to happen before it happens, then a positive outcome. This is the case of always “looking for that silver lining”. If you think positive, then positive outcomes will happen. I have heard people say that time and time again, and how the effects of positive thinking can have on your mental state and environment. To me, that going along with what the power of prayer can achieve. The last one is the Freezing Framing Technique. This one, you picture the event in your head and freeze the one particular section(s) that giving you the most trouble like a picture frame. Now, picture yourself acting calmly and more