One major part of communication is your personal perception of yourself and others. There are three specific aspects: self concept, self awareness, and self esteem. The first, self concept, “consists of your feelings, thoughts about your strengths and weaknesses, your abilities and limitations, and your aspirations and worldview” (54). Think about walking around in a big city surrounded by people. You watch the people as they live their lives around you, constantly judging and comparing yourself to them. This is you, comparing who you think you are, to someone else. In life, we are constantly comparing. Whether it be comparing brands of food or comparing who 's wearing the outfit better. It’s a constant mind thought. I believe that is where
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Constantly we compare one to another. Our physical features, clothes, personality, it’s a constant comparison. DeVito words it this way, “you gain a different perspective when you see yourself in comparison to your peers” (55). Your self concept defines how you communicate. If you have a positive self concept, you are willing to be bold and assertive while a negative self concept can result in thinking “I will never be good enough”. That’s why as humans we need to reach out and help others define their worth as positive.
Secondly, self awareness affects the way you communicate. Self awareness is very similar to self concept. The difference being the comparison aspect. Self awareness is about yourself, not about comparing yourself to others. Each person has “four selves”: the open self, the blind self, hidden self, and the unknown self. The open self is what everyone sees including yourself. How you act, your attitude, how you feel, and your ideas. This is the basicality of you. The blind self represents all of the attributes that everyone knows about but you chose to ignore. When I hear the definition of “blind self” I think of the little quirks about myself that I hate and pretend don’t …show more content…
It’s a very controversial topic. According to the media and most teenagers, if you have high self esteem, you’re considered conceided while if you have low self esteem, you’re just seeking attention. According to DeVito, “self-esteem is a measure of how valuable you think you are” (58). Self-esteem is the basis of who you are. This is your self worth. In my church. this is a repetitive subject that the adults constantly teach to the youth. Because how you think of yourself will affect the rest of your life, they teach us that each one of us is of infinite worth. My best friend’s mother told me a story once. In high school, she thought that her life did not matter, that if she didn’t exist there would be no change in this universe, she was simply filling space. She constantly looked down on herself and despised her existence. Always sad and depressed, she couldn’t take it any longer. After 17 years she wanted to change and she did. She fixed her appearance, adjusted her attitude, and became the girl that she always desired to be. Her low self-esteem reminds her to be humble among her newfound self. She made a promise to make sure that everyone knows that they are valued and are of infinite worth. Her story inspired me. She decided that she could be anything she wanted to be. I too, can be anything I desire. I love in The Interpersonal Communications Book how it explains the need of self affirmation. The need to say “ I am”, “I can”, “I will”. will
Constantly we compare one to another. Our physical features, clothes, personality, it’s a constant comparison. DeVito words it this way, “you gain a different perspective when you see yourself in comparison to your peers” (55). Your self concept defines how you communicate. If you have a positive self concept, you are willing to be bold and assertive while a negative self concept can result in thinking “I will never be good enough”. That’s why as humans we need to reach out and help others define their worth as positive.
Secondly, self awareness affects the way you communicate. Self awareness is very similar to self concept. The difference being the comparison aspect. Self awareness is about yourself, not about comparing yourself to others. Each person has “four selves”: the open self, the blind self, hidden self, and the unknown self. The open self is what everyone sees including yourself. How you act, your attitude, how you feel, and your ideas. This is the basicality of you. The blind self represents all of the attributes that everyone knows about but you chose to ignore. When I hear the definition of “blind self” I think of the little quirks about myself that I hate and pretend don’t …show more content…
It’s a very controversial topic. According to the media and most teenagers, if you have high self esteem, you’re considered conceided while if you have low self esteem, you’re just seeking attention. According to DeVito, “self-esteem is a measure of how valuable you think you are” (58). Self-esteem is the basis of who you are. This is your self worth. In my church. this is a repetitive subject that the adults constantly teach to the youth. Because how you think of yourself will affect the rest of your life, they teach us that each one of us is of infinite worth. My best friend’s mother told me a story once. In high school, she thought that her life did not matter, that if she didn’t exist there would be no change in this universe, she was simply filling space. She constantly looked down on herself and despised her existence. Always sad and depressed, she couldn’t take it any longer. After 17 years she wanted to change and she did. She fixed her appearance, adjusted her attitude, and became the girl that she always desired to be. Her low self-esteem reminds her to be humble among her newfound self. She made a promise to make sure that everyone knows that they are valued and are of infinite worth. Her story inspired me. She decided that she could be anything she wanted to be. I too, can be anything I desire. I love in The Interpersonal Communications Book how it explains the need of self affirmation. The need to say “ I am”, “I can”, “I will”. will