Jane Eyre loves Rochester since she first meets him, however she also needs to spend time away from him to truly understand all that she feels for him. The time with her cousins and another man is the experience she needs to realize she can’t love anyone else. She needs to escape, and Rochester needs to learn humility and intimacy to be the man Jane deserves.
The time with her cousins and another man is the time she needs to realize she can’t love anyone else. St. John, despite being the great man that he is, does not challenge Jane in any way, every day that she has with Rochester is a challenge to her heart, mind and soul. Jane is forced to watch her love nearly be married off to Blanche Ingram. The day Jane and Rochester are to be …show more content…
On the wedding day Jane is nearly forced to dress as a doll, and she is terrified. Jane is used to these kind of experiences: ones of intensity. Jane had a very interesting and intense childhood, and she does not feel right having a calm, peaceful, and godly relationship with St. John. St. John is begging and arguing with Jane to try and convince her to marry him, he doesn’t think of love, he thinks of the mental idea of marriage. St. John is even trying to give her examples of why they would work as a couple, John isn’t able to give Jane the type of love that she needs: a natural and passionate love, “ ‘Jane come with me to India: come as my helpmeet and fellow-labourer.’ The glen sky spun round: the hills heaved!” ….. “I could not receive his call ‘Oh, St. John!’ I cried, ‘have some mercy!’ …show more content…
For example the day Jane leaves Rochester, the declaration nearly destroys him and sends him on a spiral of emotion that Jane understands more than he does.. From nearly any interaction with Rochester and Jane, it’s clear that Rochester is more human and emotional than St. John is, even when St John is involved in what should be the most emotional part of his life (proposing to Jane) Rochester is still more passionate in his everyday interactions. St. John is unemotional due to his religious and godly ways, he never has emotional outbursts, and the idea of laying a violent hand on Jane, as Rochester would, is against his innermost beliefs of peace. Certainly, if Jane did wish for a marriage of peace and tranquility, then St. John would be a much better suitor compared to Rochester. With John, Jane would learn a synthetic love and live out her days in boredom and normality, but Jane is not one to choose peace in her life. If she did choose that tranquil reprieve Jane would be in mental agony, her boredom and her false vows to John would slowly destroy her. Rochester, the man of passion we know, gives Jane the type of excitement and true love she desires. However weighing his faults against his charms,it’s clear that his passion has before been pushed to a violent boil, luckily for their soon to be marriage,