Family Dynamics: Family And Emotional Responses

My family consists of multiple dynamics with two separate units. Each unit has its own set of problem-solving capabilities. The dynamics between my mother, sister, my daughter and myself as a family unit are different from those of my father, sister, my daughter and myself as a unit. Problem-solving within my mother’s unit handles affective and instrumental problems with emotional responses. This emotional response can be both positive and/or negative. I believe we resort to emotions due to my mother, and I both having extreme anxiety and depression. These diagnoses affect our emotional state, as well as our stress levels at various times. Being unaware of what is going on for the other person we often react with what we are feeling and …show more content…
Emotional responses are usually only considered after talking openly about the process of a problem, solution, aspects/considerations that contributed, and realities of the issues. Even when addressing emotional responses and affective problems on my father’s side it is done so from an instrumental prospective which at times devalues the emotions my sister, I or my daughter feel as important. Only once we announce the devaluing that has been felt my father becomes aware of it. From there he provides true, genuine sympathy regarding the affective responses created by the problem and apologizes for any devaluing that occurred. Both of these problem-solving processes used for resolving issues between my family units are dramatically different. My sister, my daughter and me to choose specific problems to address with different units depending on the type of support and resolving process, we feel would be most supportive to what we believe we need at the time being. We lean towards my mother for more sympathy, empathy, and encouragement; compared to my dad for more strategic, instrumental planning and solutions. My father often uses more of a tough love approach to problems and often depersonalizes the …show more content…
Sometimes the degree in which they are openly shared can be detrimental and lack filters of knowing when and when not to share occurs. In my mother’s family unit there are mental health factors that often lead to shared emotions impacting another at times in a negative way. Emotions are shared when felt and as they occur. Rather than keeping these emotions to one’s self they are vocalized and shown at times that may not be best. Also as previously mentioned sometimes when with my father emotions are expressed and the response is not as accepting, acknowledge or appropriate as expected. This often results in us feeling that our emotions that are real, relevant, and important to us becoming dismissed. However, even with these not so perfect affective responsiveness characteristics that my family units have a large range of appropriate feelings and emotion response skills we use in affective mannerisms. My family members often respond to emotions and feelings with a wide range of feelings like empathy, support, nurture, understanding, compassion, anger, frustration, disappointment, etc that appropriately reflects the current situations. My family is often consistent with their emotions and a situation aside from my mother at times. My family does not have specific rules regarding emotions per say. However there is understandings that anger and frustration are not shown through outbursts