Relationships In Waterlily

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“In·flu·ence, the capacity to have an effect on the character, development, or behavior of someone or something, or the effect itself” (Dictionary). In society people are influenced every day by their peers, family, and the media, they use the influence of others to shape their personalities and help make them grow as a person. People are influenced everyday by many different things, this combines with how people grow us a person. The theme of kinship and how it influences others is found in the book Waterlily compared to kids in today’s society, by being influenced when they were younger, in their teen years, and adulthood. Waterlily as a child uses her mother and grandmother as her guide to show her the basics of being a good kid, similar …show more content…
For the Sioux tribe teens are still using their parents as a guide into figuring out their place in the Sioux culture. The author says "But he is only a lad yet. He is still to young to take part in a winter chase. Rainbow ignored his mother 's inferences, if indeed he heard. Instead he called again Hurry! Let 's be on our way" (Deloria 92). Teen girls are meant to be crafty and make meals for the males of the tribe, while the boys are meant to be warriors and protect the women from danger. When a boy is growing up he watches his uncles and fathers unto how he should act strong and tough in order to be accept as a leader. Generations upon generations are the same, each women and child mostly do the same thing, learning when their young and continuing until their way of life until their old and die. Teenagers use their friends as a guide to who they should be and who they are becoming as a person, this can have a positive and negative aspect on teens lives. A study shows that "During adolescence, they are looking for ways to separate from their families and begin to define themselves as individuals. To that end, they are turning to their friends for guidance and direction."(A teen 's friends are a powerful influence). Peer pressure is one of the key aspects into why teens are acting the way they …show more content…
When teens leave for college and start to become more independent from their parents and friends, they start to turn their methods of growing as a person by watching the media. According to the article, "Teenagers and young adults are part of this group. They represent the significant percentage of people who are self conscious of their image; hence they are the target audience of producers and advertisers. The influence can be good or bad, depending on how the individuals respond to the shows, movies, commercials, and other media products" (Facts about the Influence of Media on Young People). Young adults are looking to media to what’s wrong and what’s right in society, they look at media for guidance into how to be accepted as an individual. This can be good and bad, many studies show young adults thinking it acceptable to drink and do drugs based on what they see on TV. In the novel Waterlily, Waterlily moves to a new tribe with her husband and is having to learn how to act as a wife by her newly found relatives. An example of this is found in the novel Waterlily when she is having a dinner with her new family, " She and Sacred Horse had been sitting side by side in the honor-place. But now the men and women formed two distinct groups, according to sex "(Deloria 187). This is a common practice in the Sioux tribe where

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