Relationships In Two Years Later

Two Years Later

Relationships can be hard work. There’s no manual created to tell you how to fall in love and how to maintain that love but, I believe when it’s the right person you won’t even need a manual. My boyfriend Joe and I have been together for almost two years now. We are young, we are very young especially to have such a serious relationship. He wasn’t what I was expecting at that time in my life. I was already busy enough between being captain of the cheering team, starting my senior year of high school, hanging out with friends, college searching and working my first job. It started just as a fun fling, a flirtatious crush but, that quickly all changed. Since then we have become best friends and lovers. He is the person I confide …show more content…
After taking a gap year to do some traveling and explore my options I have yet to decide on a permanent university. This is why I am here, I decided to stay home and take classes at USM while continuing to visit more schools and find the one best suited to continue my education. Joe on the other hand decided with careful thought and many school visits will be going to school at the University of Rhode Island. This will definitely be a stability change (“A class of relational dialectics that includes uncertainty conventionality, uniqueness, predictability-surprise and routine novelty.” (Altman & Taylor, 2015, p. 141)) for us. Although, we have been away from each other for weeks before, it is much different than ever before. We have never experienced this big of an adjustment and neither of us really know what to expect. We are both confident that we can continue to be together and further our relationship even with the 3 hour drive that will stand between us. As stated in A First Look at Communication Theory “Baxter says theories are like relationships-they aren’t stagnant. The good ones change and mature over time.” I couldn’t agree more with that statement. All relationships go through changes, but it’s the good ones, the ones that are meant to be, that adept and learn to deal with that change in a positive way. It is going to take a great deal of patience, trust, equal effort, time and most important, communication. As the summer continues we religiously discuss what next year will be like, our visits, our FaceTime sessions, and annual goodnight phone calls. We both have agreed that communication is key before a big change like this, we don’t need to be scared of the unknown, we are much better of discussing it before the time comes for him to leave. I know that this is all very unpredictable, he will meet new people and his time will be often