Throughout the song Call Me When You’re Sober by Evanescence there are themes of relationship issues, the person the singer is speaking to is assumed to be a man who is, the cause of the problems in the relationship in the song, and this is all told from the perspective of a woman. This essay will analyze this song and how the man in the song led to the end of his and the woman’s relationship. Within the first stanza, there are already signs that it is the man’s fault that the relationship ended, as is evident by the first line, “Don’t cry to me, if you loved me” (Evanescence, 2006). By saying this, the speaker is saying that she is done giving the man in the song chances, and that he needs to stop coming and crying to her when he realizes
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By saying this, the speaker is saying that she is leaving him for his own good, so that he can remember who he is, seeing as the man in the song is believed to be an alcoholic, which is why the woman is leaving him, she is doing this so that he will be able to reflect on his decisions to choose alcohol over his partner, and eventually pick himself back up. In line eight of the same stanza, the speaker states that, “We’re only deceiving ourselves” (Evanescence, 2006). By saying this she is making it clear that she was not happy in the relationship, and that the two of them are deceiving themselves and allowing themselves to continue to be in a state of denial by trying to stay in a relationship where clearly neither one of them is happy. This is further shown in line twenty-five in stanza six, when she says that, “You only want it ‘cause it’s over, it’s over” (Evanescence, 2006). What she means by this is that the man she is speaking to clearly does not want the relationship to be over, and that he possibly cannot see how much he has been hurting her, but only now that she is ending the relationship does he see how much she means to him, which is, at this time, more than the alcohol, but she does not want anything to do with him anymore since he continuously chose the alcohol over his relationship with her. The speaker ending the relationship officially is …show more content…
The man has clearly tried to make it seem like she is the one causing the problems in their relationship, and that it is not his alcoholism that is causing problems, and that he would rather blame her than blame himself for the cause of their problems. This is further backed up by line fifteen in the same stanza, when the speaker says, “Couldn’t take the blame, sick with shame” (Evanescence, 2006). The man in the song clearly feels shame when faced with his own faults and the fact that he is to blame for the relationship failing, but he would rather continue to blame the woman and the alcohol for all of his problems rather than facing the truth that it is all his fault. The woman then goes to point out that she knows this in line sixteen in the same stanza, “Must be exhausting to lose your own game, selfishly hated” (Evanescence, 2006). The speaker knows that the man she is speaking to has caught onto the fact that she knows that he would rather blame her for their failing relationship and that by continuing to blame her he is being selfish and she is slowly growing to hate him for this never-ending cycle. Throughout the song, it becomes more and more clear that the speaker is in an unhealthy relationship with an alcoholic, who would rather choose
By saying this, the speaker is saying that she is leaving him for his own good, so that he can remember who he is, seeing as the man in the song is believed to be an alcoholic, which is why the woman is leaving him, she is doing this so that he will be able to reflect on his decisions to choose alcohol over his partner, and eventually pick himself back up. In line eight of the same stanza, the speaker states that, “We’re only deceiving ourselves” (Evanescence, 2006). By saying this she is making it clear that she was not happy in the relationship, and that the two of them are deceiving themselves and allowing themselves to continue to be in a state of denial by trying to stay in a relationship where clearly neither one of them is happy. This is further shown in line twenty-five in stanza six, when she says that, “You only want it ‘cause it’s over, it’s over” (Evanescence, 2006). What she means by this is that the man she is speaking to clearly does not want the relationship to be over, and that he possibly cannot see how much he has been hurting her, but only now that she is ending the relationship does he see how much she means to him, which is, at this time, more than the alcohol, but she does not want anything to do with him anymore since he continuously chose the alcohol over his relationship with her. The speaker ending the relationship officially is …show more content…
The man has clearly tried to make it seem like she is the one causing the problems in their relationship, and that it is not his alcoholism that is causing problems, and that he would rather blame her than blame himself for the cause of their problems. This is further backed up by line fifteen in the same stanza, when the speaker says, “Couldn’t take the blame, sick with shame” (Evanescence, 2006). The man in the song clearly feels shame when faced with his own faults and the fact that he is to blame for the relationship failing, but he would rather continue to blame the woman and the alcohol for all of his problems rather than facing the truth that it is all his fault. The woman then goes to point out that she knows this in line sixteen in the same stanza, “Must be exhausting to lose your own game, selfishly hated” (Evanescence, 2006). The speaker knows that the man she is speaking to has caught onto the fact that she knows that he would rather blame her for their failing relationship and that by continuing to blame her he is being selfish and she is slowly growing to hate him for this never-ending cycle. Throughout the song, it becomes more and more clear that the speaker is in an unhealthy relationship with an alcoholic, who would rather choose