Relationship are a part of living, an ongoing verbal and nonverbal way that human communicate. A couple of years ago, I journaled for one month about all the different types of communication I had through the day with people in my life. It was interested to learn how much I communicate each day. I found myself using many types of communication including words, looks, and body language. I also saw what an impact it made on my life, and that of my families. So, when the list of assignment had to with reading a book on communication I thought of John Gottman and then saw him on the list. I chose to read The Relationship Cure A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family & Friendship by John Gottman with co-author Joan De Calaire. John
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Looking at the Bids I use on a day-to-day basis, definately how I can turn each on into a connection with the other people. This chapter has an a few exercises, the one I choose to participate was to see how well I Bid and how well I receive Bids (58-61). I learned that I Bid in the medium range, however I do not take Bid to well because I am self-critical (58-61). The second step reminded how my brain emotional response in life situations, allowing me to reflect and appreciate myself and how I take care of everyone. Step Three, Gottman/De Calaire take us down the road of our “emotional heritage (that) has a strong impact on (our) ability to connect emotionally (137). I took the exercise in this chapter and learned that I need to let my childhood go, and allow the love connection in my life now take hold of it. I loved reading the next two steps because they were about growth. I have had a bit of a rough life, and tend to look forward and not backward or inward most of the time. Step four was about “sharpen(ing) (our) emotional communication skills” (168). This chapter included how verbally and non-verbally communication and what kind of impact it has on others. It taught me that I need to pay closer attention to expression of the individual people in my life. The last step entitled “Find Shared Meaning” taught me to be more relevant and in the moment. For example, I need to be a better detector of Bids that are
Looking at the Bids I use on a day-to-day basis, definately how I can turn each on into a connection with the other people. This chapter has an a few exercises, the one I choose to participate was to see how well I Bid and how well I receive Bids (58-61). I learned that I Bid in the medium range, however I do not take Bid to well because I am self-critical (58-61). The second step reminded how my brain emotional response in life situations, allowing me to reflect and appreciate myself and how I take care of everyone. Step Three, Gottman/De Calaire take us down the road of our “emotional heritage (that) has a strong impact on (our) ability to connect emotionally (137). I took the exercise in this chapter and learned that I need to let my childhood go, and allow the love connection in my life now take hold of it. I loved reading the next two steps because they were about growth. I have had a bit of a rough life, and tend to look forward and not backward or inward most of the time. Step four was about “sharpen(ing) (our) emotional communication skills” (168). This chapter included how verbally and non-verbally communication and what kind of impact it has on others. It taught me that I need to pay closer attention to expression of the individual people in my life. The last step entitled “Find Shared Meaning” taught me to be more relevant and in the moment. For example, I need to be a better detector of Bids that are