The stages of relationships was created by Mark Knapp. It is also known as the relational stages (Adler and Proctor II, 253). Coming together and coming apart are two broad phases within the model. It is also joined by relational maintenance. The goal of relational maintenance is to keep relationships operating smoothly and satisfactory (Adler and Proctor II, 253). Initiating, experimenting, intensifying, integrating, bonding, differentiating, circumscribing, stagnating, avoiding, and terminating are the ten stages within these three phases. Out of all of those stages, the relationship I have with my mom is currently on the stagnating stage. During Thanksgiving break, our relationship has reverted back to how it originally was before my brother
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My mom is not aware of this analysis, therefore I am not sure if we are in agreement that the relationship is at the stagnating stage. Our relationship has gone through the experimenting stage, intensifying stage, differentiating stage, and circumscribing stage. The first stage our relationship went through was the experimenting stage. Within this stage, the two parties involve engage in small talks (Adler and Proctor II, 284). Having small talks was a sign that showed we had entered this stage. Throughout this stage, my mom slowly began to show interest in me by asking how my day went. The intensifying stage was the second stage our relationship went through. During this stage, the expression of feelings becomes common (Adler and Proctor II, 285). We entered this stage the moment my mom and I began to discuss how we both felt. We were able to discuss our feelings as well as increase the amount of activities we participated in together such as shopping and watching movies. The differentiating stage was the third stage our relationship went through. Although we began to engage often to the point where we became friends, my mom set boundaries that separated us as mother and …show more content…
To build upon Adler’s statement, since self disclosure requires a person to reveal information that is typically not shown to the public, once the person discloses that information it is possible that the consequences may become negative. A reason why people keep certain information away from others is to maintain their presenting self, which is an image of how they want others to view them as. Rejection, negative impression, decrease in relational satisfaction, loss of influence, and hurting others are risks of self disclosure.Throughout the entire week of thanksgiving I did not use any self disclosure styles. My personality is non confrontational, so disclosure styles such as catharsis, reciprocity, self clarification, and self validation were not used during my interactions with my mother. All of these disclosure styles are confrontational, and involves revealing personal information (Adler and Proctor II, 89). In addition, my mom was already aware of the conflict. Instead, alternatives to disclosure applied to me more. Silence, lying, equivocating, and hinting are the common alternatives to self disclosure (Adler and Proctor II, 95). Silence is when a person does not engage in conversations, therefore they do not express their opinions. Lying relates more towards
My mom is not aware of this analysis, therefore I am not sure if we are in agreement that the relationship is at the stagnating stage. Our relationship has gone through the experimenting stage, intensifying stage, differentiating stage, and circumscribing stage. The first stage our relationship went through was the experimenting stage. Within this stage, the two parties involve engage in small talks (Adler and Proctor II, 284). Having small talks was a sign that showed we had entered this stage. Throughout this stage, my mom slowly began to show interest in me by asking how my day went. The intensifying stage was the second stage our relationship went through. During this stage, the expression of feelings becomes common (Adler and Proctor II, 285). We entered this stage the moment my mom and I began to discuss how we both felt. We were able to discuss our feelings as well as increase the amount of activities we participated in together such as shopping and watching movies. The differentiating stage was the third stage our relationship went through. Although we began to engage often to the point where we became friends, my mom set boundaries that separated us as mother and …show more content…
To build upon Adler’s statement, since self disclosure requires a person to reveal information that is typically not shown to the public, once the person discloses that information it is possible that the consequences may become negative. A reason why people keep certain information away from others is to maintain their presenting self, which is an image of how they want others to view them as. Rejection, negative impression, decrease in relational satisfaction, loss of influence, and hurting others are risks of self disclosure.Throughout the entire week of thanksgiving I did not use any self disclosure styles. My personality is non confrontational, so disclosure styles such as catharsis, reciprocity, self clarification, and self validation were not used during my interactions with my mother. All of these disclosure styles are confrontational, and involves revealing personal information (Adler and Proctor II, 89). In addition, my mom was already aware of the conflict. Instead, alternatives to disclosure applied to me more. Silence, lying, equivocating, and hinting are the common alternatives to self disclosure (Adler and Proctor II, 95). Silence is when a person does not engage in conversations, therefore they do not express their opinions. Lying relates more towards