Reflective Style Of Conflict Management

Growing up together, we were playful kids. At that time, we had no major problems or conflicts. After staying together in a small apartment, I came to see every small detail that I do not like about Kaung. Every little detail would raise a problem between us now and then. I came to realize that we have different style of conflict management. Whenever we make food and eat at home, the dirty dishes are a big problem between us. I like to clean them at once and keep them on the shelf. Kaung is more of a last minute doer and likes to procrastinate. He does the dishes only when they start to smell. I cannot stand this at all. I try to wash his dishes but after sometimes, I just left his dishes and washed mine only. This did not change him. This …show more content…
I do not like to talk a lot. I keep my emotions to myself and think a lot before I speak. I have more of accommodative style of conflict were I try to beat around the bush and try very hard not to hurt other person. I, sometimes, do my best to avoid the problems and negativities. Kaung is more of an engaging and expressive person. His style of conflict management is the engaging style where he likes to show range of emotions and confronts directly to me. Whenever he tries to resolve the problem, I listen to him and try to give my side of the quarrel in a good manner and try not to hurt him. He has more hurtful words and very talkative about his problem even if he is wrong. At the end of the day, after we have talk calmly and reasonably, we decide to do our dishes ourselves and once they get dirty but after a week or two, the problem restarts. I now know that his habit cannot be mended so I just try to avoid talking about dirty dishes. I like being indirect and not say anything to Kaung. We both have unique styles of conflict management so, we never end up completely resolving any problems, but, at least, the problems do not get bigger and uncontrollable. We try to keep it small and not let our parents …show more content…
I have a girlfriend as well a Kaung. But we have very different type of girlfriends. My girlfriend is from my hometown, a Gorakha girl who is very to my parents as well. We talk everyday on phone and online and I get to meet her every time I go back to Mandalay. Kaung has a Korean girlfriend he me in Taiwan when he went there to study for a year. They met at school and got along very well. They communicate in Chinese language. As Kaung has a girlfriend from a totally different background, culture and identity, he gets to learn a lot about them. He learned how to make different Korean foods and has learned many Korean dialogues. This made him possible to make new friends easily at college. He knows how to talk to them and not be an awkward person around them. For me, it is hard to make new friends because all I know is to talk online. I have to try very hard and it is not easy to make new friends. Kaung does it very smoothly. But, what positive about me is that I have a very open and close relationship with my parents and my girlfriend. Kaung has to keep his relationship in a secret because if his parents found out about it, they will be very upset. They are very religious and traditional folks. They want their son to be the ideal person in the family and if he dates a Korean girl, he is breaking every rule in their house. It is hard for them to accept it. This has a very big impact on Kaung. He cannot