Reflection Paper On Abusive Relationships

Extra Credit: Response Paper #2 In this response paper I will be writing about my last relationship and how a lecture from this class truly helped me realize my worth and show me what a healthy relationship should look like and what I should expect and demand from a partner. I am currently in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend of two years who I have known for four years in total. The relationship before him was an abusive relationship that lasted a year and a half. For the longest time within this relationship I either disregarded or repressed my feelings towards thinking that I was in a relationship that was abusive and toxic. I found myself googling “What makes a relationship abusive?” or “Signs that I am in an abusive relationship,” I still was in denial although most of the red flags were already there. It took me over a year for me to realize that I had to get out and for that last half of …show more content…
Although I was depressed when with my ex-boyfriend I did not think that I was unable to find another person. I found myself moreso feeling like I owed this person to stay and try to overlook their abusiveness because they endured my troubles and put up with me. I don’t believe people stay by choice at all because it is often very difficult to leave abusive relationships without the risk of inciting violence or other issues. Manipulation also plays a large part in this because in my experience, my ex-boyfriend had made me cut off ties with many of my friends and made it difficult for me to spend time with my family, I believed that he was the only person that cared and if I had left that I would have no one when I desperately needed a support system. I knew that I could easily if I wanted to find another partner, but they would not “know me” like I believed my ex-boyfriend