Reflection Paper About Sexual Autobiography

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Reaction to Sexual Autobiography
When I began my sexual autobiography I thought to myself, I have nothing to write about, I am not going to be able to do this assignment. I believe in abstinence until marriage and I am not married, so I had no idea where this assignment was going to take me. To my surprise, writing the first part of this assignment was very shocking and eye opening for me. I thought I would have nothing to write about but once I started writing, I could not stop. The questions asked in the book were very detailed and specific so it made it easy to think back and reflect.
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I realized that I am too hard on myself. If I mess up and go against my values, I feel guilty for weeks. Sexual exploration
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During the course of the semester, I have gain confidence. I am now confident in my body and how my different parts look. I have gained an understanding that there is no particular way a certain body part should look like; it is unique for each individual. I have gained confidence to participate in sex talk and discuss manners that I would have previously avoided. I am more willing to actually start the conversation of sexuality and answer questions that my friends and family may have. On the first day of class on May 16th, we did an experiential exercise where questions were written around the room and we went and put sticky notes with our answers on them underneath the questions. One of the questions was, ‘What do you think the most common thing people want to know when they come into therapy?’ Almost the entire class put ‘is this normal?’ I too put that, and I have wondered that about myself with certain things. After this course, I no longer wonder that. I know it is normal, and I am not the only one struggling with a particular thing or …show more content…
I have never had to reflect before on the idea that I do not have any negative sexual experiences and what that means to me and how I view sex. I discovered that my mother really did not teach me anything; I learned everything from peers and searching online. My parents did attend the maturation program with me in fifth grade. “Most schools offer a sex education program in fifth or sixth grade, which is considered to be prior to the onset of puberty. Programs tend to emphasize prevention and plumbing, I have yet to met a women who learned about the clitoris or orgasm from this instruction” (Buehler, 2014, p. 55). Honestly, the only thing I remember learning from this one time discussion is to never use two tampons, because you will probably have to go to the hospital. Through our classroom discussions, I have come to see the importance of sex education. In our abstinence only sex education verses comprehensive sex education discussion in class on July 12th, Logan mentioned in his presentation that an argument for abstinence only is that it will teach kids what to do and make them curious. I believe that this was my mom’s way of thinking. If she did not mention it or talk about it, I would not want to do it. I do not want to take this approach with my future kids. My mom always said if you have a question you can ask me, but I never felt comfortable asking her because I felt like she

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