Consummate Love Theory: An Unhealthy Relationship Interview

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HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP INTERVIEW

How long have you been together?
Chuck: We 've been together 20 year 's.
Jo: I don 't know what he is talking about, because we been together 21 year 's Charles.
Stan: 2 yrs. and about 11 months.
Shay: It has only been two year 's? No way! I would say we 've been together over 3 yrs., babe we are approaching our fourth summer. If feels like 5 to me.
Where did you meet?
Chuck: We met over the phone.
Jo: We met thru a friend, on the phone.
Stan: We met in High school and than later at a cookout.
Shay: We did not meet in high school babe, I only went to that school for two months in twelve grade and you were in college. We met in middle school. His first cousin was in my 6th grade class and we were introduced. Than that same cousin invited me to his mom 's cookout 17 yrs. later.
What did you first love about your partner?
Chuck: I really enjoyed Jo
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137) the Consummate Love Theory would best describe our relationship. We are friends first before ever being lovers, so might that be a great thing because I trust him with my most inner secrets, thoughts and fantasies. Often times, we take a step back from being husband and wife and we say what advice would you give your friend? He and I are able to completely be open and honest about everything. Although, we are not infatuated with one another, the passion that we have for one another goes without saying. We make meaningful time for each other at all cost. He listens to me and we connect on a spiritual level. I once believe sex was physical but I later learned that it 's completely mental for him and I and a lovely conversation will most certainly do the trick. I would like to believe that we both are totally committed to our relationship. We are so different and that’s wonderful because he is everything that I 'm not and I am everything that he doesn 't care to be and it totally works for

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